I want to let my 13 year old daughter know what is expected of her when it comes to her duties at home?

Question

For example: her job is going to school and doing her best or in the summer helping around the house
Has anyone seen anything like this or have ideas?

Answer 1

Give her a weekly allowance of $10.00 or what you think is fair. Chart all the duties and what the monetary value of each job is that is required of her. Daily check if the job has been done and check off the list daily.If she is to make her bed and clean her room and it is worth $4.00 of her allowance and she misses a day then she losses that part of her allowance.You must sit down and tell her exactly what is expected done from each chore. If you say wash the dishes and she washes them doesn't dry them or put them away she will argue the point of what you asked her to do. (went through 3 teenagers myself). You must keep the chart in check....you start slipping and so will she.

Answer 2

Tell her now that she is turning into an adult she will have more responsibilities. Refer things that she does at school as important school to work ethics.........they will help her in the job market: being on tiime, responsibility for homework, interacting positively with peers, etc. Give her incentives........just like a job.
It doesn't have to be money but could be rewards or extra special priviledges. Compliment accomplishments and calmly discuss mistakes........always relating it to the adult world and life in general.
As for summer jobs.................sit her down and talk to her about her jobs and what they entail........the expectations that you have.
I would give her a paycheck and teach her how to save some of the money in the bank. Budgeting is something that parents often overlook as their children are growing up and then they have troubles when they are on their own.

Answer 3

it is great to give them responsibility... get a list written with all the ways she could help around the house... jobs that would help you out

sit down with her and chat about it... get her to pick out some jobs she would prefer doing
but set out the frequency and all as well

she is the one that picked out the jobs then and not you
make her feel important enough that you trust her to pick the jobs out that she can do best

group them as well example
kitchen duties
laundry duties
outdoor duties
so on

get her to pick a few from each group that way she is doing a variety of chores

but let her know they must be done by certain times and so on so you dont have to nag her after...
if jobs arent done then she may have to do a few extra jobs on the list becasue she has disrupted the routine and delayed you...
be a bit flexible but firm with it

Answer 4

You have to start on this when they are more like 3 or 4, you are starting late. you have to make sure she knows how to do what you want her to do. the big question is her motivation. why should she do it? what are the benefits or consequences, etc.
you have to set up the situation and enforce it (for example no mall or friends or tv unless her chores are done. Dishes, vacuuming, laundry (her own), cleaning her room, mopping, sweeping, yardwork. anything she can do. should go on somewhat in the school year too, she should contribute. work with her to teach her to do the stuff. they don't automatically know how to do dishes or clean their room they really don't. show them what you expect and teach them how then withhold whatever they want (new clothes, seeing friends, cell phone etc) until it is done.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Have a dry erase board hung up on the wall
with chores assigned to each child for different days.
There should be no discussion or argument, as she'd
know what her responsibilities were.

Answer 7

My mother did Ivy's suggestion, now I'm terrified of Dry erase boards. Though I did do my chores ( some times after a lot of fighting though).

Answer 8

Write them down.

Answer 9

Ok, so tell her.... Communication is key. she v=can't read your mind.