Why do I only think of women only as a sex objects?

Question

Ok everytime I look at a girls all I can think is having sex with them. I am 20 year old guy. I think of them only as sex objects. I dont want to have any relation or family with them just sex.Is it wrong to think that way? And if I know that I am not gonna have sex or try to do it I am not even gonna talk to them. I dont know what to talk to them about or why do people even need relations besides having kids? Am I just still kind of immature or something? How can I get my mind straight that there is much more than sex, like long term relationships, feelings and time spending together and all the that stuff. Does anybody also thinks this way or will it change later in life?

Answer 1

You're only 20. It's normal. Check back when you're 27 or 28. If you still fill this way, then it's time to take stock of your priorities and outlook.

In the meantime, enjoy life and try not to hurt others.

Answer 2

RELAX- you're 20yrs old. That's what 20yrs think about. It's ok not to want to get married and have kids right now. But keep in mind just having sex is fine (as long as the female is on the same page) Females, a lot of the time ,view sex much differently. And in this day and age of AIDS and everything else, you must be SAFE. Use condoms, get tested once a year if you're having sex with multiple partners. Nothing is worth dying over. And lastly, just because you're just into sex doesn't mean you can't treat women with respect and kindness. Take the next few years to learn about them as well as yourself. Coming from a woman of 49, here's a tip: the more you please a woman in and out of bed, making sure she's happy first, the more she'll want to have sex and want to please you back...
By the time 30 or 40 rolls around, you'll understand and enjoy women more and hopefully they you as well.

Answer 3

This is normal buddy. Many guys your age look at women and think about nothing, but sex. It's hard to tame those raging hormones. It'll calm down with age. Try hanging out with a girl like you would one of your guy friends and see if maybe that can help shed some new light on the subject for you. Women are great to be around and if you try looking a little deeper, you might find yourself wanting more out of a woman other than sex.

Answer 4

Well there is no problem s long as you use protection.Second try to put youre self in the girls shoes how would you feel if someone just used you for sex?Third sex has been said is good for you, yet you should try to meet a girl really get to know her and spend time with her and when you have sex with her it wont feel like that it would feel like youre making love and you will enjoy it more.God bless

Answer 5

Yep immature or something about sums it up. Your young your gonna think about sex all the time heck many old men still think about it all the time. that's okay you will eventually change (hopefully), however not even talking to a girl unless you think your gonna have sex is down right stupid. Many guys have girls/women for friends, and are glad they do, (they come in handy for relationship advice) by not giving yourself or them a chance to get to know one another your missing out on a lot, and life's to short to waste it. good luck

Answer 6

vet, yes you are imature still, and no thats not a bad thing, your in your prime when guys are the most horney and want to sow their oats. now later in life if you havnt controlled this you will still be thought of as a boy. a real man isnt determined by his physical, its determined by being a real man and having control of his body and doing what is right at all cost... as far as looking at them only as sex objects is concerned i dont think that what you just explained was you thinking of them as sex objects onlybecuase you noted you know there is more to a woman then just sex and you know there is things likelong term relations and children. your just horney, simply put. as time goes on youll mature. just be true to yourself and for god sake be carfull if your exploring becuase you can catch somthing and destroy yourself good luck

Answer 7

Your only 20. of course all you want is sex. Find a 30yr old chic. We are very horny and all we want is sex too so dont trip, you are normal. You've got at least 10 years before you really need to be acting responsible so get it out of your system while you can.

Answer 8

it sounds like you just havent had good experiences with women, maybe the types of women you are in contact with arent what you would want to date, or arent your type. if they yammer on about... nothing... get on your nerves, seem like drama, maybe you just need to look for someone your own speed. make a list. what are you looking for in a girl? theyres nothing wrong with wanting her to be both attractive and a cool person you could hang out with. its out there. not all the chill chicks are ugly. it may take you a while, but keep looking for that girl you'd still want to be friends with, even after you've been having sex. she could be the one you end up in a relationship with.

Answer 9

lol, well by your question i would say your still immature, but if i wasnt married i would be having sex every second!! LOL
have you ever had a girlfriend> just dont have sex with her for a whole month and see how things go, you might actually enjoy being in a relationship!

Answer 10

At your age no it's not wrong. But as you get older you'll learn the hard way that women are not sex objects. They desreve respect and admiration. They should be treated like goddesses.