I have a 4 almost 5 yrear old daughter she dosen't have any siblings, i'v been told that that is going to ruin her, she doesn't want to share she is very selfish and id mean to everyone i don't think she knows how to make friends, i'm scard that what everyone is telling me is true!! is she going to be ruined or not be able to fit in??????? PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-07-30 14:01:13 · 7 answers · asked by Sassy 24 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I thought that things would get better in preschool, they diden't. she is also very very verble, people always say; are you sure shes not 10!
2006-07-30 14:03:53 · update #1
I want more children, we have been trying for over a year and nothing, so its not that i want her to be a only child.
2006-07-30 14:26:45 · update #2
i don't think there is anything wrong with only having one child. i would ask her if she realizes how her actions make other people feel.
give her plenty of chances to succeed socially:
pee-wee sports.
invite kids over from school and have them play with similar toys like barbies, so sharing is easier.
take her to the park on weekends and encourage building sand castles in the sand box or a game of tag.
do things together with her like coloring on the same page of a coloring book and tell her how nicely she is playing and how much fun you are having and how other girls her age like to do the same thing.
this may take a while, but i think she'll be just fine!
2006-07-30 14:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by adrienne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider whether you are up for more kids or not, as well as what will be good for your daughter. Being an only child is not going to ruin anyone, in itself. Those I have heard from do tend to say they always wished for a sibling and were lonely, but that is not being "ruined." If she has involvements with other kids and has friends she plays with frequently, and most importantly if you and/or your partner model good relationships, she will learn how to relate with others.
2006-07-30 21:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child and the more you get her involved in other activities the better she will be. Team sports are great like softball, soccer, and maybe something agressive like karate. Don't talk about her being an only child and the so called affects because if she hears this stuff she will act it out. Expect for her to become friendly and she will. Oh yeah Pray and Pray often.
2006-07-30 21:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Takbir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen that happen alot; probably because children like that are the center of the universe to their parents. They don't understand the concept of having to wait for anything or share their time with their parents. It's good you're aware of it now, and I'm sure there are alot of good books about raising an only child.
2006-07-30 21:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kayt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I don't like the idea of only children. They don't learn how to socialize, share, take turns, etc. You need to work on this with her as much as you can. Sounds to me like you've put into her head that the world revolves around her and it's gonna hit her like a brick wall when she finds out that it doesn't. She's going to have major problems when things don't go her way anymore.
2006-07-30 21:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is an only child. About her age, he was insisting on sharing ALL of his food with me. You need to go to some effort to teach her compassion; this is the most important thing she can learn.
2006-07-30 21:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your responsibility to train your child.
2006-07-30 21:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋