I like this gal alot, the feeling is mutual. She has been divoriced for almost two years, but still afraid of any type of dating or commitment. I have been the nice guy in her life for a while sending flowers often and always making her smile and laugh. Whenever we see eachother we never leave without a hug, the way we hug eachother is more than just any kind of hug it is quite sensual we both agree on that. How do nice guys NOT finish last?
2006-07-30 13:31:45 · 12 answers · asked by arms wide open 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, there are two ways of looking at this. First of all, if the feeling is mutual, you need to sit her down and tell her that you're a decent guy and that you'd like a romantic relationship. Two years is long enough to get over the fear and the hurt of a divorce.
You'll need to be a little assertive and get the ball rolling, so to speak, or else you might end up just being the "friend."
Secondly, are you sure that she's interested? She may just be using you to get attention, make her smile, get flowers, etc. Don't get hung up on someone that won't get hung up on you! You deserve better than that! But you'll need to make a move soon, so that you don't end up just being the pal! Good Luck!
2006-07-30 13:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by iamdaphneblake 2 · 14⤊ 3⤋
You will not finish last if you find out what she likes...then be real
and if you do not like those things...go get another girl...your wasting your time. If you do like something she likes go in that direction...let her get comfortable with you...over time you will come to know weather you are wasting your time or not...her trust has been betrayed...you are not her savior...nor can you break her of anything....you can get to know her better, be yourself, allow her to be herself...never critisize...if you don't like
something there's your sign....pay attention to red flags this is your life your living...never ignore red flags.....if you are compatable...and not just pretending to get the girl, you are not wasting your time...don't try to change her, break her, save her,
she is human, the same as you are....being compatable, and open comunication without judgement is the door to success!
2006-07-30 13:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is the most important thing. Explain to her you total intentions. You should also let her know that you will give it time if need be. Many girls or guys in this position just need to hear those words and then they know ok this guy or girl is willing to do this just for me. It may work in your favour by actually pushing things along.
2006-07-30 13:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by missgoodgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient ; she must have been really hurt. Be patient and give her the time she needs.Let her know you understand she is have a difficult time trusting men again.Teach by example.Let her see the "real " you and she will see that you are not like her ex.And don't give up..Feed the relationship and watch it grow!
Hope things work out for both of you!
2006-07-30 13:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real nice guys finish first, God makes sure of that. Tell her how you know shes been thru a bad experience etc, but you are there for her , and you want to make it all better. Tell her to trust you, tell her she deserves to be happy again, and that you want to be part of that happiness in her life. Good luck.
2006-07-30 13:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to show her your not like the other guys because I'm just like her i been hurt really bad and I really not ready for a relationship..She just need a friend (girl) to help her threw it..Trust me she have been talking about you alot if you did that..But if she wants to wait just wait still chat with her just wait..
But just SHOW HER your not like the other guys then she will like you..
2006-07-30 13:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient and she will come around, i was that girl once, sounds just like me. now i have been with the same guy for 7 years, 4 or them being married to him. it will take time.
2006-07-30 13:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be the one to make her get over her fear of commitment. You may have to threaten to dump her if she doesn't get her act straight.
2006-07-30 13:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by ttjakt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't,it is something that she has to do. she has to learn that not all men are dogs and it is something she has to do on her own. if you talk to her just let her know that you are someone new and don't intend on hurting her. good luck
2006-07-30 13:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time and prove to her by being patient and romantic that u are different
2006-07-30 13:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by midnight red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋