follow up question-how forgiving are you?

Question

if your spouse cheated on you, or a friend lied on you, or someone was just really rude to you ect.. could you?, would you? forgive or would you carry that burden of unforgiveness to the grave?

Answer 1

I would not carry it with me to the grave as you say...I would forgive...now forgiveness doesn't mean one has to be a doormat...it is simply choosing to let go of the wrong that was done to one and moving beyond its effects it has had on ones heart and mind.....Jesus says we must forgive......I choose to forgive at all times...some times are harder than others but like i said it is a choice.....

Answer 2

People often tell me I am too forgiving. I don't think I'm too forgiving, but I feel that other people are not forgiving enough.

But when someone refuses to apologize, there's no way I can forgive them. When I am unable to forgive, I don't usually have a "burden" of unforgiveness. If someone hurts me willingly, and they are not sorry, then that person no longer exists to me. I don't associate with them or think about them. It's that simple.

Blessed be.

Answer 3

I could say that i forgive...but deep down inside i don't really don't mean it! i can;t ever forget.
What is the use of forgivness. It's just to make the other person feel better about the wrong that they did. I honestly hate them with a passion and they don;t know it. well they might know. But I just keep it to myself and mind my own. Life goes on. And I try to stay away from bagstabbers...you name it! I just can't forgive.
It's unacceptable! For cheaters. nah. unforgivable. and i don't see how some girls/guys are sitll with their other half when they cheated on the numerous times. It's ridiculous! You can't forgive someone who betrayed you.

But if someone was really rude to me and did know me personally. I can forgive them because they don't really know me. I just honestly feel sorry for them to talk **** about me. And don't even know me. I'm an approchable down to earth goofy person. But people look at me and think otherwise. I forgive them for judging me and thinking the worst of me. I try to make things better by approching them and settign the record straight. I like to see the good in people. Im not a fighter.

When someone betrays me. It's going to be with me everywhere I go. In my head. I let **** go. I learned from those experiences.
I would like the other person believe that they have been forgiven by me. When I don't really meant it. And Personally this might sound mean but I wish them bad luck for the rest of their life. You know Karma!!! At the same time i feel bad because im a very blunt person. But I don't no drama!!!
Same thing with familly, bestfriends etc...It goes way back. Stuff I rememeber till this day. They think it' all good. But I kinda hold this grudge inside. but I still have much love for them. Because they are close to my heart and I understand why.

Everyone goes thru this and make choices. It has made me a better person. And I also taught myself to cope with these type of situations. Sometimes it's hard but whatever...

Answer 4

If my spouse cheated I would probably divorce him,. only because I am not sure that I could live with the constant thought that he may do it again. the trust is gone. I would eventually forgive him but continue with the marriage I do not think I could.
I have had friends lie to me, I try to forgive them but alot of times the deceit gets more and more deeper and our friendship usually ends. Not fun, sort of lost my faith in friends.
I am commanded to forgive so I do so but sometimes it takes a little time.

Answer 5

I would forgive. I might not forget and there might be days where I remember the wound, but forgiveb I think I could do that for almost anything especially if I can tell that the person is really sorry for what they did. I might be less forgiving if it was something that they kept doing over and over though.
Pray that helps

Answer 6

Forgiveness is not for the person who wronged me. Forgiving a person benefits me. It allows me to live my life free from resentment and hatred.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean I set myself up to be wronged again. Nor do I have to remain in relationship with someone who wronged me. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean forgetting. Hopeful I will learn something in the process and will not end up making the same mistake again.

BB
Pabs

Answer 7

Ouch.
OK, honestly...I've been able to forgive friends who have lied to me, and I've been able to forgive people who have been rude to me. As far as I know, my husband, God rest his soul, never cheated on me. I've been able to forgive just about any offense handed to me except one.
Someone (an adult in a "well to do" church) was rude to my little grand daughter, making her feel inferior to the rest of the group.

Thou shalt not make my grandbaby cry!!

Answer 8

I have forgiven people who have hurt me in OTHER ways (I'd rather not say how). The type of hurt that can rip your soul right out. No one asked me if I forgave them..... somehow I managed to hold on to GOD and I prayed to GOD to heal my soul and HE did. YES, in my heart I FORGAVE....on rare occasions I remember...I pray more. I live a good-healtly life because I forgive......BUT REMEMBER you can forgive someone and NOT have to be in a relationship with them or associate with them in the same manner. However....the sins against me I forgave.........HOWEVER I WOULD NOT NOT NOT FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO HARMS MY CHILDREN IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM...I wouldn't forgive that ...NO, I wouldn't......reason being ....I love my children more than myself (as should be)! .... I will pray for you okay...and GOD BLESS YOU!

Answer 9

As Don Henley of the Eagles so graciously put it:
If you keep carrying that anger- it'll eat you up inside Baby".

Answer 10

I "ve been there and I walk away from the relationship and i stay away from the liars and the rude part people are alwaus rude to each other so stay away from them , it will hurt for a while but it will also make you stronger.