He doesn't seem to want to spend as much time with me as I do with him, it's like it doesn't matter to him.
2006-07-30 13:25:43 · 34 answers · asked by :) clw<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't be too clingy, but if he's not spending any time with you or if when you guys are together and he doesn't seem like he's having fun, then maybe it's time to move on
2006-07-30 13:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do need space so maybe thats why you might feel that he doesnt want to spend time. I use to be with bf all the time every day after school and every weekend. And after a while he seemed to want to spend time with his friends. I remember I suffered so much because I had stopping hanging out with my friends to be with him. And when he would go hang out I would get so mad. Now, Ive learned that sometime both woman and men need space, so there is time to say and feel that you miss them. Not only that the day you break up with him or he breaks up with you, you might feel devasted because all you ever did was spend time with him. Good luck and always remember to make time for yourself too!
2006-07-30 13:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not in some cases. That's just like you asking is it anything wrong with the grass because it's green. People seem to be one way without even trying. Ease up on being with him for so long and see how he reacts. Because if he asks you why you haven't been hanging around him like you used to lately, that means he misses it and doesn't mind you being around him so much. But if he doesn't notice and doesn't say anything about it, the best thing to do is to talk. Maybe he doesn't love you like you love him. You never know! The only way to find out is to talk about it.
2006-07-30 13:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to want to spend a lot of time with him, but you need to make sure that you still take time for yourself and give him his own time too. It's the best way to build a solid relationship. If you try to spend time with him constantly...he may feel smothered...you shouldn't give up your life and focus only on him....make sure that you still spend time with your friends.
2006-07-30 13:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people need space. It doesn't mean that they don't love and/or appreciate you. That person had a life before you and most people still need to maintain some level of individuality in their lives. Ideally, both of you will be able to come to some agreement about together time and seperate time. If you cannot - it will always be a conflict and will probably not work out in the long run (he may feel suffocated by your constant need for attention / you might feel hurt / disrespected by his need for seperation)
2006-07-30 13:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by kpizura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read alot of these peoples comments and i agree totally , im in the same boat as you. My first relationship from 14-17 i had no friends , my boyfriend had no friends , not many that he saw. anyways so we saw and hung around eachother all the time. my boyfriend not im 19 hes 24, he has friends and family that he wants to hang out with , not only me. i need to understand that even though i dont have what he has. I have no friends, my family , thats a long story, but i dont have anyone to talk to but myself or my boyfriend. Do yourself the favor of giving him his space. I know its hard especially when you call him , and theres no answer or he picks up and you here people in the backround. All you have if you yourself and I. exercise , get a job if you dont have one, if you drive go out to the movies yourself or with someone. Dont depend on him, trust me if you to breakup it will be alot easier for you
2006-07-30 13:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It depends how old each of you are. The younger, the more you should concentrate on other things. Family friends and school. I am sure he loves you. Just give him space before you push him away.Don't give yourself so much time to miss him. Get involved in more activities. Hang out more with friends. Don't ignore him but don't give him so much attention and you'll be surprised to see that he will put more effort towards the relationship and you.
2006-07-30 13:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both my bf and i prefer spending time with each other rather than friends and family. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But if your bf thinks differently then you shouldn't restrain him from spending time with other people besides you. It'll give you guys more topics to talk about when you spend time with other ppl too.
2006-07-30 13:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Su 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to be with my guy all the time, and still do, now that he's my husband. He likes to spend time with me too, but not 24/7. Guys just aren't like that.
Have dates and occasionally phone calls and do stuff with your friends and have fun independently of him. It is still your same life. Make sure you are adding him to your life, instead of him becoming your whole life.
2006-07-30 13:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by mynickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have this same problem and i always wondered whether something was wrong with me. i like being with my bf a lot but sometimes i feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me as much. oh well i guess thats just how it is
2006-07-30 13:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋