Whenever i get on the phone with someone, I just draw a complete blank until I just end up getting off the phone. Can anyone suggest any good phone topics that can start conversations. BTW...i've already gone through all the basics (fav. food, color, sports, school, etc....)
2006-07-30 13:15:50 · 15 answers · asked by Ms. Tesi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Easy. I have some really simple advice for you that anyone can use (that means you too, guys). First, it's better if we get something straight, and that's what NOT to talk about.
Unless if it's something you're REALLY interested in talking about, just don't. Cliche and mundane topics that are just horridly bad things to talk about when you want to get someones interest include school, work, and family. These are all things that people just generally get bored to tears talking about.
What you need to do is to stop worrying about what to talk about, and realize that it's how you say it that really matters. By the way, people tend to freeze up and act awkward when they feel like they have to come up with something in situations like these. Instead of struggling to come up with a new subject, just talk about something you YOURSELF like.
That sounds crazy, I know, but talking about things you like to talk about are usually things you know a LOT about. (This means you won't run out of things to say on the topic.) Also, if you're worried that they won't be interested, don't. Just realize that if you talk about something like you're unsure if they'll like it, they most likely won't. However, if you talk about something you like talking about in a way that says you like it, and that they would too, you'll definitly keep their interest WAY way longer than if you don't.
Now I'm also assuming you're still pretty young and don't exactly know a whole lot about too many things yet, so I have some additional advice you might want to try out. People often tend to hint at what it is they want to talk about whether they know it or not. All you have to do is pay attention to what they say back to you.
Just as an example, so you understand exactly what I'm talking about, lets just pretend your having a conversation with someone that goes like this:
You: I love cats.
Him: Are you kidding me? Dogs are way better.
I realize that that's a really lame excuse for a conversation, but you wouldn't be asking for help here if you hadn't tried something desperate like that already...
Anyway, back to the point. It would be wise to pick up on the fact that this imaginary guy you just talked to has some interest in dogs. A smart thing to do would be to follow that up with something along to lines of talking about dogs. (For example, "How many dogs do you own?") You get the point.
Keep your ears open, and you'll catch little hints like that the more and more you do it.
Now if you want a topic to talk about when you call him, just go with the reason you're calling. You like him...duh. So tell him.
2006-07-30 13:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good thing for a drought in a conversation is to just take turns asking random questions. The questions can sound as weird as can be, but you can always delve deeper inside of the question. ex. What's your favorite constellation? When was the last time you just looked @ the stars? blah blah blah, and you could tellem about a time you went camping or whatever.
2006-07-30 13:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by hfmgr06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,here are some ideas:
did you enjoy the weather, today?
I enjyed seeing you.
What's going on in the city?
I was wondering, could you teach me something?
Have you tried Crystal Light To Go? The raspberry ice is tasty!
Are you planning to go, to the fair grounds, to see the white stallions perform? It might be entertaining.
been To JC PEnney, yet? There's a sale going on and some things clohtse are on clearance.
2006-07-30 13:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to be entertaining instead of discussing things of relevance to you...maybe that's because you're overly self-conscious, or maybe it is because those you are talkng with lack the depth you're craving. Either way, relaxing and letting your true thoughts surface would seem to be a necessary first step. Good luck to you. By the way, what DO you find interesting?
2006-07-30 13:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the starting conversations you are having trouble with, it's keeping them going. You have to listen to what the guy tells you and ask him open-ended questions about it.
2006-07-30 13:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk. and carry the conversation until u find another topic in that.
2006-07-30 13:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Moh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about sports, cars or fighting anything that evokes the male ego. Compare they're strength & size to anything weaker or smaller than them.
They will love you for it.
If you want to get rid of them talk about how great other guys are but not them.
They will hate it.
Guaranteed results! ;)
2006-07-30 13:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by delan369 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comparing personal experiences has always been interesting to me and it tends to leads to other topics u werent sure were proper for the conversation *wink* just a tip
2006-07-30 13:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by i fell again 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dont think about it like that just relax and youl naturally think of things to say if your not always negative and have it in ur head that u never have anything interesting to say.
2006-07-30 13:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u shud try some sexy conversation to a guy!
2006-07-30 13:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by mudbloodprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋