If you cheat on your gf do you think you should ever confess to her?
Ten years ago I was in love with a sweet, beautiful girl. I asked her to move in with me and she refused, something about not doing that before she's engaged. I lost interest and started two timing her with an old girlfriend.
She accused me of sleeping with my roommate. I swore up and down that I wasn't, and she believed me but I didn't try to win her back. We were still in love two more years but we never dated again. I felt I couldn't tell her the truth about betraying her, but couldn't live a lie either. So I just walked away.
I'm going over to see her again this evening. Her boyfriend is out of town and she wants to see me. I think he's jealous. I have half a mind to tell her the truth about what happened ten years ago, not sure why but I do. We're good friends now. I'm attracted to her still and I know she is too but that's all it is. Do you think that's wrong?
2006-07-30 13:03:50 · 17 answers · asked by Monso Orda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because of your lies........she feels she know you are lying, she probably knows she can never really trust you.
which is probably why there is no relationship now
2006-07-30 13:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by cleopatrais42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's obviously still into you if she wants to see you 8 years later, and the boyfriend is out of town. If you still love her, and you want to have a future with her, then you should tell her. BUT, telling her is could hurt both of you if its not done in the right way.. But maybe there's a way to phrase it, like, hey Jess, i know its been 8 year, but i can't get over you, our relationship went down the drain 8 years ago because i was an a** and ****ed up pretty bad, because i wanted you and couldn't have you. But i cant' get over you etc.... if that is the case anyhow. But if she means a lot to you and you to her, then she will give you a chance to explain. tell her how guilty and awful you feel (if that's the truth). Go for the truth and all the best!
2006-07-30 20:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you still have strong feelings for her, which are empowering you to confess to her about what happened. Also tell her that you never meant to hurt her and was too proud to confess the first time. If I were you, I would also say, "I hope that we can be friends or much more." Hopefully, you guys can rekindle what sounds a lot like love.
2006-07-30 20:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ mss116 ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. But ya know --- here is how I feel about it. Don't say anything. What good will it accomplish? I mean, if you are good friends now, she may feel you can't be trusted (yes, even though it was that long ago) --- doesn't mean you are a pig or anything. As I said, stuff happens. Let it go. All it will do is cause hurt feelings. I don't think you want that.
2006-07-30 20:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her....it was a long time ago and you only want to tell her now in order to ease your guilt...it will not make her feel good to have that knowledge...so you should spare her the grief of feeling betrayed...if it's not an issue now...it's not something she needs to know.
2006-07-30 20:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to think of ur actions b4 carrying them so u wont have to confess but since the deeds been done asap the sooner the better
2006-07-30 20:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by i fell again 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you were not in love with her for two more years if you were cheating on her. Lovers are not Cheaters. Humping your friend is what you were doing. Loving and having sex are not the same things.
2006-07-30 20:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by idiot detector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't go there and tell her your secret , leave that skeleton in the closet , you don't want to ruin her love for you , she might not trust you ever again, trust me my relationship is not like it was before after I confessed I really ruin it , there is no trust, love,
good luck to you....
2006-07-30 20:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possably yes.
2006-07-30 20:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by animalsrock_246 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling her the truth will hurt her
but l guess she will trust you more
and that will make her believe you truly still love her
2006-07-30 20:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by gladys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋