What should I do? (Sorry, did not know what to list this as.)?

Question

I have a boyfriend he is not in town right now. He is helping his father in his fathers business. Since his father had a heart attack. Anyway ever since he has been gone, some guy who I don’t know other then "Kyle" has been sending me flowers. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. what should I do? They are beautiful, but I don’t know this person, and all he does is sign the name Kyle. Except for one time I sent them back (the first time) thought there was a mistake. Then next time he sent them he told me they were indeed for me. That there was not a mistake. So what should I do?

Answer 1

You obviously don't care much for this guy who only goes by Kyle(because it sounds like you're already happy with your current man). Personally, I think the whole mystery admirer thing would come off as a little creepy, as would you I presume. So my suggestion to you would be to (if he does send more, and probably will) send them back again, only this time with a note of your own added to it.

You know these flowers didn't just start coming for no reason. It's obvious he was waiting for an opportunity like this to steal you from your current boyfriend without the confrontation, so in this note, (if you're agreeing with me so far that is,) I would write something to the effect that even if you were single, you wouldn't be interested in someone who didn't have it in himself to come out and admit who they were in the first place.

You'll probably crush the loser's heart, but that's his problem, not yours. After that, it's likely you won't hear from him again, because guys like that just don't have any balls. That's why he went with the indirect approach. He doesn't want to embarrass himself, so even if you reject him, he won't have to feel so bad about it.

Also, if this turns out to be some kind of test your boyfriend is trying on you, I'd be pissed. If this does turn out to be the case, then I'd suggest telling him to find someone else he can have an un-trusting relationship with, if you get my drift.

Answer 2

Well keep them. Flowers tend to make a room smell great. You might can share them with some of your friends or maybe someone you know in the hospital. As far as the Kyle dude... sooner or later he will let you know who he is. Until then.. dont sweat it. Only thing that would really bother me about this would be if he were like stalking me or something. Another idea, is to go to the shop in which the flowers came from. Explain this ordeal to the person working there. Maybe they can give you some idea as to who this person is. And last but not least.. tell your boyfriend what is going on here. (just grasping here at any ideas.. ) could it be your boyfriend.. just trying to see if you tell him about this guy.. maybe he is playing a trick on you. Who knows.. but try some of these things. Good luck on your detective work.

Answer 3

Send Kyle a note that the flowers must stop.Explain that you dont feel comfortable accepting gifts from someone you do not know.Let him know that your appreciate the flowers and thought behind them but at the present time you have a boyfriend who is out of town.And you feel that you mst be honest with him.

Could your boyfriend be testing you...That happened to me once; and later found out y former b/f was testing to see how faithful I was to him.

Answer 4

If you wanna stay with your bf, send back the flowers again and let this guy kyle know you have a bf and dont want anything to do with him. Then tell your bf about it. If you dont tell your bf about it and that you "handled" it, it could cause problems down the road if this were to ever rear its ugly head again.
But you may also want to make sure its not your bf trying to "test" you...because if a guy tries to test you, then he has insecurity issues that will manifest themselves as much deeper problems later on and it would be better for you to leave him now than deal with that later, as it could become abusive.

Answer 5

Do not throw them on your front lawn. Instead, give them to an elderly housing unit. Just give them to the social worker in charge who will see to it the ladies, who other wise would never receive them, enjoy them. Do the same with left over wedding flowers and even those from funerals. Recycling with a heart. Then ask the florist to pass on your actions to your unknown admirer. If he continues to spend his money, the ladies continue to enjoy it.

Answer 6

if u really have feelings for the boyfriend who is helping his father with the business then you should leave your mystery homeboy alone. but if you don't care about your boyfriend and want to get your mac on then gone wit ya bad self gurl. but you should at least ask the person who delivered the flowers to you to tell you where they are coming from or at least give you a brief description of your secret man and see if you want to be involved with him.

Answer 7

If you want the flowers to stop coming to you, then you need to continuously send them back explaining that you simply can not accept them. However it sounds like you enjoy the attention. If your boyfriend is the one you love, the you need to ignore the attention ( if you know what I mean!)

Answer 8

I'd watch your surroundings, that is kind of creepy. Seriously though, if this is your biggest problem right now, I envy you. This isn't a big deal. You'll probably find out who it is eventually. Meanwhile just put the flowers in your kitchen or something.

Answer 9

sounds awfully suspicsious. Are you sure your boyfriend is not testing you? If you dont know this Kyle guy, stick with your boyfirend. He is going through a rough time if his Dad had a heart attack and he really needs your support right now, not betrayal.

Answer 10

Tell your boyfriend about this. Let him sort it out. It's not your fault if some guy keeps sending you flowers.