just by describing myself physically do u think im not gf material?

Question

ok i'm about 6'1 134 pounds with 3% body fat. I have blonde hair and my eyes constanly change colors depending on my mood...lol...i play volleyball 365 days a year and if im not actually playin im practicing...i have conditioning 2 hours a day every day of the year rain or shine. I play for 3 different travel teams and im only about to be a sophmore...if im not playin v-ball im trainin for our next rodeo or tornament...im very country and yes i do have a accent. school wise...im in all gifted honors courses and am goin to graduate 2 years early....already been accepted @ ASU or UGA....but i cant seem to find a guy that truly loves me and wants to be with me....i mean every guy ive been w treats me like crap and im bout tired of it....do u think that i am just unlikeable? seriously! lol i know this sounds kinda crazy but ive been denied for so long that it really has taken an affect on me....lol plz give me ur HONEST opinions! i appreciate it!peace

Answer 1

I think the problem is that you are so dedicated to your volleyball and studies that you don't actually have time for guys and any that you do go out with treat you the way they do because they soon find that you don't give them the attention that they feel they need. The nice, sensitive guys who you really deserve probably feel somewhat intimidated and are intelligent enough to see before even asking you out that you care more about your sport and studies than you would about them.

I wouldn't say that you are unlikeable ... just that if you want to have any kind of relationship with anyone, you have to understand that there are things you have to be prepared to give as well as take from it and that the guys you have been with treat you the way they do because, frankly, you have treated them as second to the other things in your life.

Answer 2

You certainly sound as if you are quite physically attractive. I think your main obstacle is actually age.

From your description, you mention that you will be graduating early, which leads me to believe that you are in your teens.

Most of your male, teen peers do not have the emotional maturity, or experience to realize what they want at this point in their lives. They treat you like crap simply because they are young, and immature.

If you try dating older men, who might have the experience to develop some maturity, you will unfortunately find only immature and emotionally stunted older guys who are willing to date a high school girl because they are unable to emotionally connect with women their own age. Your physical attractiveness probably works against you here, attracting the immature guys like flies. Those with the maturity to appreciate you are probably going to stay away from someone as young as you.

Give it time, and you will certainly find the right guy for you. Your problems now aren't because of you, but the quality of the men available to you socially.

Once you get into college, you will probably find the quality of available men will increase exponentially, and you'll probably be a lot happier. Until then, I suggest that you have some fun, and don't expect to find anyone who will be a soul mate.

Answer 3

You have to be happy with yourself before you can 'find' anyone else. Notice patterns that your fall into when looking for a guy. Obviously, something isn't working. You are still very young. If you start worrying about your self- not if you have the love of your life- (I'm not saying become a self-centered bi**h.)Sometimes, when you're not looking for something/someone, it shows up.
You might want to ask yourself, am 'I' the reason I have problems with finding the right guy or with my self-confidence?
There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! You just need a more positive attitude. You have a lot of talent and you sure are smart. Best of luck sweetie!

Answer 4

You're still in high school it sounds like. Guys your age aren't really mature enough for a relationship. When you get to college, try to have friendships with men that gradually change into a romantic relationship.

You are also currently focusing on your studies and activities, without much bf time. Like you should - you're on the path to a good life.

It's really hard, but that's the best way to have a "real" boyfriend that respects you and treats you well.

Answer 5

Maybe you should think about how you come across to other people. Are you friendly? Do you genuinely care about people when you talk with them? When you do talk to them, do you listen to what they have to say, or do you wait to talk?

Most guys are afraid to approach pretty girls. They think, "I'll never get someone as pretty as her," so they ignore her.

Also, from your description of yourself, you don't seem to have time for a boyfriend. You have volleyball, workouts, school, etc. You can't expect a man to totally wrap himself around your schedule. If you want a boyfriend, you are going to have to carve out some time to devote to him.

Lastly (and I speak from personal experience on this one), people who are involved in so many things can seem quite full of themselves. They get wrapped up in how great they think they are. Your statement about your lack of body fat is a telling clue. You are basing your self worth on your appearance. If you are using your looks to get a boyfriend, then you deserve every single loser than comes your way. If you use your personality and your heart to find someone, then that relationship will have rewards beyond measure. Ask yourself this: are you pretty on the inside as well as the outside? Your body and face might be pretty wrapping, but a pretty box of shiit is still a box of shiit.

Answer 6

it sounds like youre a very likable person its just that youre probably looking in the wrong places for love...you should try dating sites around your local area and always let a man youre on a date with know what you want and what youre looking for, you have a lot of things going on for yourself and youre still young so dont get desperate theres enough time and youll see there is someone out there that will like and or love you for who you are...patience is virtue if you look for something hastily you will see that you might not find it at all but only after youve taken the time to look for it carefully you will find it right before your eyes..

Answer 7

You're so young, don't worry about it so much. When you get to college, the boys will be more mature. But why get so settled right away? Have fun doing what you want and not answering to anyone! And I'm sure you're girlfriend material, you sound great.

Answer 8

I think you should find things to do OTHER than v-ball. Like, play guitar!! I've been playin since i was 12 and guys no matter what think guitar players are hot!!

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you wouldn't have time for a boy friend. If you did, I think it would be hard for him to compete with your lofty opinion of yourself.

Re-read you description above. You describe yourself as Miss Perfect in every way. That's boring.

Answer 10

You're usable... You need to date guys who you know might give a crap about all you do. Don't be negative, feel positive. You know the best options are the ones that aren't confrontational. You gotta be nice, flirt, and not overcommit to one. The one's that are more your friends and less your model, boy-toy.