I am nearly 18 and my boss is 42, I've had a thing for him for about a year and a half now and, the couple of friends that know I like him, have been saying that he flirts with me every time I see him. He was seeing someone who works in the same place as us and now they've split up, he's been paying a lot of attention to me. (Might be worth adding, he split up with his girlfriend cos he was having an affair).
I have been noticing things recently that he has been doing. He's always coming up to me, making excuses to talk to me, touching me briefly and just generally paying lots of attention to me. When I first started working there, I think it got out that I liked him, due to motor mouths.
I'm not interested in a relationship at all. I find him very sexual attractive and would just want a sexual affair with no strings attatched.
But do you think he's just flattered cos I'm so much younger than him? Or does the flirting mean he has more intentions?
2006-07-30 12:18:23 · 5 answers · asked by RLJ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, he isn't married
2006-07-30 12:23:07 · update #1
The age difference is considerable but that's not my main problem with this scenario: it's the fact that (1) he's your boss, (2) you don't have any substantive reason for pursuing him other than a sexual attraction ( I have to assume at your age there are plenty of available people you could have sex with [not that you should] that don't represent the type of vulnerability you expose yourself to in this situation), and (3) your situation is unequal because he has an enormous amount of life experience over you...it might be different if you loved each other, but you don't so there's no inherent protection against your being exploited. Oh yeah, I'm sure he's flattered, if not because of your youth, it certainly doesn't hurt him any...but as much as possible you want to avoid unequal relationships( relationships in which power or influence is unevenly distributed), that's how people get themselves emotionally damaged. I'm not saying don't do it ( actually, yes I am), but if you're going to do it anyway, at least pay careful attention to the big picture as it relates to your situation. Go into it with your eyes wide open. Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 12:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's hard to tell if he's just flattered or if he has more intentions....if I was in that situation at 18 I think I would be to afraid to do anything....but if you just want a sexual affair I'd say do what you think would be ok.....just be careful
2006-07-30 12:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To save yourself alot of grief, find someone either 9 years older than you no more or younger! NO more ! Trust Me.
2006-07-30 15:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your boss, his wife doesn't need you chasing him. And your going to get fired when shi* hits the fan and your found out.
2006-07-30 12:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT travel down this road!
2006-07-30 12:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋