I am not the kind of person who cares about how much money my guys have and my ex did not have much money but I was with him for 5 months and did not even get a rose or anything. I would not even ask but he would always buy dvds for himself and waste money on fast food. We were together for V day and he took me to meet his family but did not even give me a card. Should I have known it was over back then or was I right to not care about material things?
2006-07-30 11:52:12 · 13 answers · asked by in need of advice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wanting your bf to buy you things does not mean you are materialistic. When a guy suprises you with a gift that is his way of showing that he was thinking about you, and that he believes you are worth it. If he didn't buy you anything on V-day that shows that he did not think you were worth it. Even something as far as a letter to you, or a day spent alone together is enough. I think you should have noticed that he did not care about you, but I do not blame you. It is hard for a girl to ask for things (some sign of affection) these days witout being called a gold digger or materialistic. My strict rule is, "you do not have to buy anything for me, but don't ask me for anything" (sex included after a while).
2006-07-30 12:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 10⤊ 3⤋
If he didnt buy you a gift it does not mean he does not care about you. It depends how long you have been together though. If you guys have been together for less than 5 months you cannot expect him to buy you a gift even if your relationship lapped over christmas or your birthday. I mean yes, typically a guy would get you a birthday present but if he didnt i wouldnt worry. Now, %-12 months yes, a boy typically does get you a christmas,birthday, valentines day present now remember i said TYPICALLY not always though. It is NOT requirment still. Now if you have been together more than a year than you obviosly mean A LOT to this boy and yes he should of went out of his way to do something and buy you a present for a important holiday but You cannot force a guy to buy you anything . so i know i havent really answered the question and here it is: NO if he did not buy you anything it did not mean he did not love and i would not look in to it. If he was with you in the first place he obiosly loved you very much and i would not be to worried. If you guys end up going out again i would not worry about it.
2006-07-30 19:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Material things are a token of friendship or love, Its shows that someones thinking about you when you're not together. There is something good about recieving something you like whether it's flowers, candy, or whatever. Selfish guys always say to a girl they are using that "you shouldn't worry about gifts or material things because you have me" . Thats bs. On the flip side a girl shouldn't measure the worth of a relationship solely on material things
2006-07-30 19:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be he is just not romantic or never thought to doesn't mean he didn't care, just maybe a little airheaded in the love department. And you were only with him for 5 months, that is a little soon for love from most guys, he may have wanted to wait to spend on money on you until he was sure you were the one.
2006-07-30 18:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by newgenre1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you DO care about material things. At least he was with you on Valentines day. Truly, gifts are a nice way of showing afffection but shouldnt be a measuremnt of how much someone loves you
2006-07-30 18:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gift-giving is NORMAL in relationships. Especially on special ocassions, such as V-Day. I don't believe your acceptance of this reflects a lack of concern about "material things." Though I admire that sentiment in you, in a RELATIONSHIP, to accept NEVER receiving anything is more reflective of low expectations.
However, at this point, I wouldn't worry about it at all. He's your EX. I'd "chalk it up to experience" and move on.
A lot of guys would appreciate your attitude; and in turn, make YOU feel appreciated as well.
2006-07-30 19:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's gift can include a warm kiss in the morning. A simple I love you. Dont measure gifts by their monitary value. If he makes you feel loved in other ways, thats enough gift for any relationship.
2006-07-30 18:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by mojorocks555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men haven't a clue about the 'little' things that would please a woman. They may think it's too much. BUT, when you leave because someone DOES, then you guy may wonder why!!! When you tell him, he will most likely say, "...why didn't you tell me". Not saying this will happen, but it's a classic piece in what some guys would do and/or say.
2006-07-30 19:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn that blows i dont think he really wanted to buy you stuff so i dont know if he liked you or not i buy my gf all sorts of junk like when she is sick and stuff but yeah dont worry about it there are like more guys out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated
2006-07-30 19:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by xxmendozaedxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have known it was over back then.
No rose, no poem, nothing for you--out the door he goes.
2006-07-30 18:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋