Why don't guys want me. How can i meet one.?

Question

i'm 18, female, from australia. I'm a bit overweight. Every guy I know wants a tall, skinny pornstar. I'm not that, i can't ever be that. I should give up, because deep down we all know that a guy will date a fat girl but still prefer a skinny one. I can't even get guys to date me who prefer the skinny ones. It's all rediculous.

Answer 1

be more aggressive

Answer 2

Hmmm. Let me tell you a story, and if you read all of it, I have a feeling that I just might change your whole outlook on life.

Once upon a time, I never gave girls who weren't physically attractive (to me at least) a chance, because like so many guys you'll meet, I just wasn't interested in them. Back then, I used to think the reason I wasn't interested in them was simply because they were "ugly," or just not normal looking enough for my standards.

Yeah I know, how shallow of me you think, but I learned a very important lesson a while back. You can't force yourself to like someone, and likewise, as well as more importantly, you can't force someone to like YOU. However, looks aren't the only factor in what decides whether or not if you're attractive.

This probably sounds almost too good to be true to you I bet. Well, it's not. I know this because I met someone who didn't ring any bells on my hotness scale, but for some reason, (basically, I was tired of all the attitude I got from past girlfriends who I thought were "hot") I decided to give her a chance.

At first, I didn't really feel anything special when I was with her, but I had to admit that she didn't annoy me like everyone else at the time, so I decided to stick around. She was just quiet and sometimes downright boring in my opinion, but after a while, she warmed up to the fact that I wasn't using her (although, I admit that had I found someone else who was more interesting, and if things between us didn't change, I probably would have left). She lightened up and and even started talking a lot more with me. This was a welcome surprise, because she was generally a quiet person altogether, and for some reason, I started liking her more.

The reason I liked her, (and still do) was because of her personality. She did something right that a lot of other girls, (even the good looking ones,) didn't seem to know how to pull off. That something was that she was just fun. Madness you say...

The lesson in this little story is that whether you're good looking or not doesn't matter a whole lot. (I realize there are a lot of shallow people out there, but you can probably tell which ones are and which aren't from the get go anyhow.) If you just stop worrying whether or not if they like you and just have fun around them, chances are, they'll start to like you.

Also, some basic dos and don'ts that make a girl fun are as follows:

-Flirting is always fun...
-Don't be quiet
-Don't be insecure with yourself
-Be confident, not arrogant
-Know a thing or two about having sex (if you're of age that is)
-Don't be overly emotional

Answer 3

Your Question is rather vague. How old are you? What part of the world are you from? What type of man are you looking for? Are you looking for a man for a good time or forever? Sometimes it seems as though all the descent people are already taken. This is not true. If you have good morals and are searching for someone with good morals, then there is a good chance there is someone out there for you.Do not begin by looking worldwide, but rather start by looking at those near you. I hope you find fulfillment. Be patient and do not become discouraged. All the best.

Answer 4

Honey, can we talk openly? First off that abscess you were complaining about in your last question, might be a turn off. And no Bloke wants to be brought into an incestuous world. Maybe these voices you are hearing are actually Bloke's trying to communicate with you. So listen up! Now, wipe that piece of hot dog off your face, comb your hair, and get out there in the real world, because the revolution will not be televised.

Answer 5

I'm a guy and I like women regardless of their weight. The best thing is to be interesting -- which means, having genuine interests that enthuse you and that you can stimulate the guy with. Intelligence helps, a sense of humor helps, and most of all, it helps if you bring something new to the encounter. Personally, I've learned enormous amounts from the women I dated; had a lot of fun; and the women I've loved most are the ones who had something interesting to offer. Looks and weight are secondary! Do you have an interesting perspective on things? On politics, or music, or movies, or life.

Answer 6

ummmm, be real?

be yourself.
smile. (a lot)
dress nice.
be social. (be talkative)
be confident (confidence is a mans hidden desire)
walk with your head high
go out with the girls
invite ppl to your place to hang out. use alcohol to losen everyone up (not too much though)
have one of your girlfriends (who has a b/f) invite one of his friends and u can double date.
join a gym or club org.
always do your hair and makeup.
get in tune with the latest fashions

you have to admit, appearance is the first thing a guy see's. personality comes next. (unfortunatley)

good luck!

ps.. its always seems that if you are looking for a guy, there are none, but when you least expect it, one will come into your life. dont be too desperate about lookin for one. let him find you!

Answer 7

Go out and do the things that you enjoy doing. You will meet people there that have the same interests as you. That's a good start. Also, don't look for a guy. They are out there in droves, just do what you do and they'll find you.

Answer 8

You want a guy to have sex with goto a club.
You a real dude, have patience and stop thinking about men. your guy will come along and its will be a wonderful surprise. If you keep looking for a guy your going to start to see things in a guy that isnt really there.

Answer 9

Be confident and beautiful on the inside. Usually when you stop trying so hard, someone will find you. Just remember you dont need to be half of a couple ,to be special. You are special all on your own.

Answer 10

That's two different questions. It's not hard to meet people. But it may still be hard to get them to want you. You didn't give enough information for anyone to answer the first part.

Answer 11

I suppose a picture might help with this one, lol. Guys like sexy women. Sexy is not a look it's an attitude you have to follow through with.