Every parent says they want whats best for there child rite. well what if your child knew what was best for them but you didnt do it, how is that whats doing what is best for them, your just thinking of yourself?
In lamens terms, if your child knows whats best fro them and you dont do it, how are you doing whats best for them??
Um this about my life, but i wanna see a parents point of veiw on it, before i go into details.
2006-07-30 11:44:08 · 9 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I spend alot of time in prayer for my children. I try to follow where the Lord leads me with them. So far they are happy. Good luck :)
2006-07-30 11:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by homeschoolmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a child, even a teen, know what's best for them? They haven't lived a full, experienced life but parent's have. Parents are much better qualified because they have already been through the things that their children are now going through. A child may know what they like but they don't have the ability to weigh the pros and cons to decide if it would be beneficial or detrimental. They just think, I like it and I want it. What would be beneficial for you is to learn how to spell and to learn the true definition of "lay men's terms".
2006-07-31 21:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting does not come with any kind of instructional manual nor does it say anywhere parents are perfect and not allowed to make mistakes. Parents everywhere always have the best ideasbut they are best intentions instead, sometimes just look at their kids and whoa...! You have to deal with your kid so then to the results of you actions. Sometimes we are right and wrong on others but we did it ourway right or wrong. You just have to go with your gut feeling in dealing with kids nowadays. If our actions turn out to be wrong,we learn from this mistake and dont let it happen again and move on. All kids know whats best for them, but if this was true,why arent they out there at their age solving the worlds problems and then parents could be dependent on them. Funny how that works! Just remember you are the parent and the controller of the house/parent rules and final judge in all matters, whether they like it or not.
2006-07-30 19:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hear my child out but ultimately it's up to me to decide if it's right for her. If she thinks this thing is right for her, can she see the big picture. As parents we have to thing into the future on everything but whatever we decide is what we think is truly best. We love our children and we don't want them to be unhappy but they are our responsibility to raise right and no one, for the sake of their children, wants to mess that up. So how do we decide? We use what we know to make the best judgment we can - and we may not be able to make that judgment with our children flouncing and stomping and saying that they know what's right and we're just stupid losers who don't know what it's like to be the age they are now.
2006-07-30 18:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have kids in the teen range and when they come to me with a well thought out plan I will consider their ideas. But if they come to me with something that is clearly not in their best int rests, I will ask them many questions to see if they have really thought it out. Kids many time think with their emotions--" I will just die if i can't drive 200 miles with people you dint know to see ozzfest!!
--" i am moving to new york, i am going to be a star!! (when yesterday it was leaving for LA to be a singer) Adults, will often say that because they are not ready for their kids to grow up and let go a little, but a lot of the time it really is in your best intrests, to listen.. or at least come up with a good case as to why you should be allowed to do something.
2006-07-30 18:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to hate it when my parents would say tht to me. Now I'm turning around saying it to my girls although they're younger than you. We do what we can (most parents) to try to keep our kids safe. We try to keep you happy although sometimes that means going against what it is that we hear you say you want. Sometimes we, as parents, need to keep the lines of communication open and realize we were young once (not so long ago) and that times are different with every generation.
hope this helps
2006-07-30 18:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make right decisions for your children, you have to pray alot. But honestly, as a kid I always thought I knew better than my parents...but guess what? I grew up and realized they were right and I was wrong on almost ALL of it.
2006-07-30 20:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents can lead by example for their child or children. I lead my daughter by example. I knew what was best for her, because I knew her better than she did herself in her teen years. Now, she thanks me for the way I raised her. Nothing is better than life experiences from those who are older and wiser.
2006-07-30 18:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll, It is really hard to help without the details
2006-07-30 18:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by MC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋