i want to tell him all out about what i fell and what i think he should do.. something just happened recently and it was my fault. i said sorry. but i want him to start thinking.... do you think he'll actually listen and be more open and talk to me??? and make good come out of this???
2006-07-30 11:40:58 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Victoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well i dont wasnt to "tell him what to do" what i mean is... give him suggestions on what to think about.....make him actually consider something
2006-07-30 11:48:51 · update #1
IT WILL DEPEND ON THE GUY AND OW IT REACTS TO WHAT U HAVE DONE...BUT BEING UP FRONT WITH HIM IS THE BEST THING THAT U CAN DO. NO ONE WANTS HIDDEN THINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP..GOOD LUCK
2006-07-30 11:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~JACKIE-ANN ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think a mere sorry patches things up? Sorry is just a five letter word, easy to say. You poke a hole in a wall and sorry does not patch the wall. Now you want to lecture the aggrieved guy? You think sorry is a free get out of jail pass and now everything is hunky dory? You tell me why you think you even have the right to lecture him?
Sorry just does not get it done, unless the sorry is heartfelt and humble and is a prelude to a determined "I will never do that again".
You have to understand the dynamic of wronging a person and hurting that person. You hurt him. He feels pain. He wants you to pay for what you did. You need to pay. You owe a debt. So what do you pay with. You pay with genuine sorrow and regret to the degree that in his mind the debt is paid. You need to humble yourself. He does not have to forgive you. That is out of your hands. Your job is to humble yourself and offer sincere apologies with the determination never to repeat that behavior again. Your job is not to lecture him.
2006-07-30 12:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i tried to do that to a boy but he was shallow and superfical and it didn't work out.Plus he lied to me matter of fact all the boyz lied to me so yeah give it a try unless he is like superfical then no be sure you know things about him1
2006-07-30 11:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel that way. There is nothing bad that ever comes out of telling the honest truth. Good luck
2006-07-30 11:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him what you think he should do, he will leave or you should just end it. Your relationship is not going anywhere if you are telling him what to do, and do you really want to date a guy that you have to tell what to do all the time?
2006-07-30 11:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by jcmark4501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are stubborn and unforgiving. Some are willing to listen. Personally, I'll be curious on what you have to say.
2006-07-30 11:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do when you screw up is be honest and open about it. But there's no guarantee he'll open up to you. That's the consequences of your actions.
2006-07-30 11:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what happened and the guy himself.
2006-07-30 11:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by John W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime time heals all bad things done what ever it was I suggest if it was real bad pray even if you don't go to church anything could help hope you use your better judgment next time
2006-07-30 11:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell someone "what you think HE should do" then thats just wrong. No good will come from that
2006-07-30 11:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋