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Let's go back to John and Jane Christian again (If you didn't read my previous question, it is here:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ag0MbDXhyaOJTMTSRUSHFzPsy6IX?qid=20060730151014AAKWtYs . Here they are, still quite happy, now with a couple of beautiful little bundles of God's joy running about. As it turns out, Jane, the breadwinner, makes most of the decisions in the family. She deligates responsability, decides what to do with the money, and is, in every sence of the word, the head of the household. John is completly happy with this, and submits to her in every way. Is this considered wrong, at all, in the eyes of God, the church, or the bible?

Same rules apply.

2006-07-30 11:30:13 · 20 answers · asked by Girl Wonder 5 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

Almost forgot. You have to give me a good reason WHY. Extra points if you use sources other than the bible to tell me why!

2006-07-30 11:33:51 · update #1

Oh! angeltress reminded me! They have a cute little golden lab puppy named... Buddy. yeah, Buddy. There we go.

2006-07-30 11:47:21 · update #2

20 answers

Gen 3:16 says man shall rule. But then again, that's old testament, which also demands blood sacrifice, is OK with polygamy, etc. So it is really up to whatever church you're going to.

From atheist point of view, I do not see any problem with that.

2006-07-30 11:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

When it comes to marriage, women typically find themselves playing three roles — wife, mother and worker (either in the home, office or both). Men, meanwhile, are expected to be the primary family provider, protector and spiritual leader.

is the opening line of this site:
http://www.family.org/married/topics/a0025090.cfm

It's interesting that it doesn't say that men are the primary financial provider. There are so many ways that my husband provides for our family. It's not just financial. He grounds me emotionally and spiritually and I always feel safer when he's around rather than at home by myself with all of the doors locked and the lights on! And really, the list goes on - our son listens and responds to his discipline faster than mine, for another example.

Finances are huge and one of the leading reasons people get divorced. But neither of us would ever make huge decisions - like whether or not to buy a new car or move to a new neighborhood - without the other. My husband has no idea how to balance a check book. Is that wrong? No. It just means that he gets to do the dishes while I write out a few bills. Money is the topic that Jesus talks about most in the New Testament. Not heaven or hell or sin or relationships - money. Why? Because it is so easy to fall into debt, cheat or steal. We are commanded to be wise stewards and if that means you have to pay the bills, then so be it. Just remember that as a stay at home mom, John's salary is equivelant to $134k per year.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/05/12/opinion/main1616324.shtml

Edit: Proverbs 31 speaks of an amazing and Godly woman - she considers a field and buys it, she makes and sells garments - she sometimes is a business woman and an investor.

2006-07-30 18:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by adrienne 2 · 0 0

I don't think there is anything wrong with the woman being the leader, especially if that is her personality. If the husband (who is more of a follower) were to try and run the family, chances are it wouldn't work as well. I believe that the couple should work as a team in making decisions and in other aspects. But the wife should not disrespect her husband by ordering him around and treating him as an unequal.
This situation is similar to Isaac & Rebekah in the Bible. He was a quiet, "mind-my-own-business" kind of guy and alowwed his wife to run the household. Despite this, God still blessed him and he became a well-known person in the Bible.

2006-07-30 18:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by ellie 3 · 1 0

Yes....women are the home keepers(take care of children and husband , cook clean are the duties), men are supposed to work and earn a living and provide for the family. It is the way a Godly famil should run but that can't always happen. It's the way my family has run since we became Christian....it kind of just evolved that way cause' took over and led the way....we have functioned very happily and much better that way...the women should never be in a position where she feels like the more masculine spouse...it puts strain on the relationship...I know women want to have equal rights as men and be successful in the work world but what happens when that biological clock kicks in....you can't have both... you can't do it all...you will grow old a lot faster...we were not meant to work like the men and take care of children too...in the bible we are helpers of the men, we are not the men.that is why we are wo-men...this statement is against many households...I know but it is the way it should be in the eyes of God. God Bless all families going through hardship.

2006-07-30 18:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by truegrit 4 · 0 1

As for who takes care of the kids and who is the breadwinner, if both spouses agree I don't think that matters. But, the man is suppose to be the head of the household, especially in spiritual manners (if the husband is a Christian like John.. :) ) He is suppose to rule the house like God rules the church. But, that's really a hard one. I say love each other, love God, and everything will be fine.

2006-07-30 19:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by ???? 3 · 0 0

I'm becoming quite fond of Jane and John Christian. Jane seems to be a very capable lady, and John a very sweet and kind husband and father. My answer is still the same.
Jane answers beautifully to the wife in Proverbs 31. And, we see that John's heart fully trusts in her. I'm sure Jane was the one who gave birth to the two little bundles of God's joy, and I'd be willing to bet a year's salary that John took good care of her during the final months of her pregnancy. I'm assuming John has taken on the task of looking after the little ones, now that Jane has gone back to work? And all five of them are very happy in this arrangement...
LOL, I'm not sure I want to examine your statement that "John submits to her in every way"...but John seems to be very happy and content in the relationship, so I'll just gently close the door on that question.
God bless Jane and John Christian. Long life to them, good health, and many grandchildren!!
Gee, the only thing you left out was the dog, playing ball in the yard with Dad and the kids...

2006-07-30 18:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

A man is head of the household but the woman can manage it. Hes not a slave driver and required to love her and treat her well, a woman is to be submitted to her husband . She isnt to be bossed around and be quiet as a mouse. She can influence her husband and be a role model in the community.But he has the ultimate decision on things. Men who love God will not abuse this and if he asked her to do something that is sinful, she shouldnt do it. Men and Women who read the bible and follow Jesus and walk with God know how to handle it pretty well and know what to do. People can be happy in any religion or non-religion but I think true joy and hope and peace come from knowing you are walking with the Lord and have eternal life in Jesus....God bless you and take off the mask. lol

2006-07-30 18:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ms DeeAnn 5 · 0 1

money = control ???

the golden rule is not he who has the gold makes the rules

I think you equivocated something.... the person who makes the most money... does not have to be the one in control... not really Biblical

my experience is that the best decisions are made by the husband and wife working together, and the worst when one person want things one way and the other another way and not willing to do some give n take

it is not problem for a husband and wife to decide most issue together, and one would not consider it good leadership to always be overcontrolling, rather biblical leadership is that the greatest servant is the greatest leader an makes deicisions for th egood of everyone, possibly putting thier interests ahead of his

If the woman is a single mother, no issue... she is the head of her home... but making more money doesnt make you the head... it may give you more say in how money is spent

2006-07-30 18:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by whirlingmerc 6 · 0 1

What does it mean "... wrong ... in the eyes of God" ?

Nothing is wrong or good "by itself". No state and no event (change of a state) in a discrete-event model (approximation) of reality.

For instance, monogamy: Our law assumes that monogamy is better than polygamy (I can have many wives but not at the same time).

Apropos of the "good/bad" terms, Darwinism is not a theory: it cannot be tested. It cannot be a source of a hypothesis which can be experimentally tested and denied or confirmed.

Therefore you, Girl, should ask "... wrong for achieving the goal X" or "... wrong for applying the plan Y for the goal X" etc.
(This is not a place to discuss the notions of a goal and a plan in human reality, not in a robot world.)

2006-07-30 18:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Of course.
I make more money than my husband, I earning my bachelors degree and am qualified for more extensive work than he is.
We both made chooses in life to get to where we are know, he’s ok & and I’m ok with…
We share decisions on as to what to do with the money & share responsibilities of the house hold.
Neither of us are Christian, though, is that necessarily a requirement?

If so, then I do have another case for you one of my friends’ families.
The mother is a teacher, & the father is a pizza delivery guy.
She makes much more money than he does, how’s that wrong?
They love each other, so why should they care what anyone has to say about it.

2006-07-30 19:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by s_an_dubois 3 · 0 0

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