2006-07-30 11:16:35 · 27 answers · asked by alishalynn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
For the children's sake
STAY AT HOME MOMS
2006-07-31 22:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by outdoor man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like so many other questions, depends on your circumstances - neither is automatically better. Staying at home gives time for a mom to be with her children more and teach them lots of things - but some moms might not be real good at that, so maybe a daycare provider would do as well or better. If a mom really loves her job and/or really needs the money, doesn't hurt the child to be in some sort of child care, as long as it's safe and cares well for the child. Many moms need the "adult time" a job provides.
For day care, check out the staff - how many providers are there for the number of children they have, and what their background is - this is often regulated by state law. Visit the center, and try to find out what the kids do all day - do they have plenty of free play and educational activities, or are the plopped in front of the TV much of the day?
Where problems come in is usually when the mom really wants to either work or stay at home, but is forced by circumstances to do the opposite.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 18:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be a stay-at-home mom is indeed a challenging role especially in these modern times wherein most couples have a career of their own and are very much influenced by the norms of the society.
To be a stay-at-home mom has a lot of rewards that go with it. Not only would you be able to care and raise your own kids, but your kids would be able to have a first-hand feel of your love and concern towards them. I know, being a SAHM isn't easy...it never is. Especially if you are very much buried with lots of housework and other chores apart from taking care of your own kids. And you know what, it can be very stressful as well. Be sure that when you decide or have finally planned to be a SAHM, you are indeed prepared for this 'job' with a whole heart and with a sound mind. That being a SAHM may not give you any paychecks but your investment is within the lives of your own kids. And you know what?...The fulfillment and contentment that you get being a mother is insurmountable. You would see and experience that when your kids love you back and when you see their happy faces.
You may not have enough or lots of money in your pocket, or you may not be able to buy the latest trends in clothes or the latest sofa, but the rewards you get for being a SAHM is worth the big sacrifice.
For those working moms, no offense. This is basically the truth. In fact, I also commend working moms for their sacrifices. At times, some moms really DO have to work 'cause they're single parents or that the household income isn't enough to cover the very basics. What we are talking here is to have a balance in every home- children need our love, our attention, as well as our TIME.
Above all, try to write down your priorities in life. If you do so prefer to be a SAHM, and are willing to give up on some things, then go ahead.
2006-07-30 18:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Charlize101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have a choice to either have a career or be a house wife and mother. Once you become a mom, it is no longer about what you want but what is best for your child. The best thing for your child is to stay home and take care of your child. Nobody is better for your child than you are. It is a terrible mistake to think that you can have both - a career and be a mother. You can't give 100% to both. Inevitably, you child will suffer. Always remember your priorities. What is more important that your family?
2006-07-30 20:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by nonna57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer here.. I was a stay at home mom and enjoyed every moment of spending time with my child. But there are those moms that have to work and can't get around that, but that doesn't mean they love their kids any the less. I think it is up to the individual and how they feel about it. Finances play a big part on the decision of most moms also. It is how you spend your time with the child opposed to how much time you spend with your child that is important..
2006-07-30 18:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by just_libs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a working Mom, so of course I'm going to say working mother. I think there are benefits to having a stay at home mother but when your families lifestyle would be severely compromised I believe a woman should return to work after having children. My personal belief is that I'm a better parent to my daughter when I get some "adult" time, as a compromise my husband and I take different days off so she only has to go to the sitter's 3 days a week! :)
2006-07-30 18:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Veronica's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question; That depends on the individual. These days it's impossible to only have one working parent in the home. Life is expensive. But on the other hand if you can stay home with the kids until the youngest is around 4 or 5, it's best because you miss so much of their learning stages. I loved watching my children take their first steps, etc; but expenses made me go to work to survive.That's all I have to say.
2006-07-30 18:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..you are looking for some debate on this one!!!
I am in the middle...I have been at home with my son for the last four years not necessarily 100% by choice though ( I was on disability from my job) now I am back in school and will be graduating in December. I will be returning to work along with my son going to school so I will be working while he is in school.
I LOVE the time that we have had together and am extremely grateful that I was able to spend the time that I did with him...however...I do believe that there is some benefit to a parent working even part time. I think it benefits the child and gives them the opportunity to form bonds and relationships with other people and I think it is good for the mother to have some structure, professionalism, and "adult" comradreship outside of the home
2006-07-30 18:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's better is what makes YOU happier. if you feel the need to work outside the home, to define yourself with a career or with accomplishment other than household ones... then by all means, be a working mom! If you want to dedicate yourself to your children and your house, stay home. A happy mom makes for a happy family, it's a personal choice.
2006-07-30 18:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Karen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home mom! Kids always need their moms attention 24/7!
2006-07-30 18:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the mom. Or whatever your better and what you love. Even if you are a working mom you still have to give the kids the attention!
2006-07-30 18:36:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋