I am 21 and been with my boyfriend for about 10 months, but in the last 6 months i have noticed that when we go out somewhere he is always checking out some girl in front of me. Of course, I confront him & he denies it- and i know he is lying. He says im being paranoid but I know for a fact I can see him with my own two eyes checking out another chick. 1st off it is disrespectful to do such things in front of me, I do NOT check out other guys and neither do I care to because I am content with him. I dont understand why he does this & am wondering if it might be a "red flag" I should be worried about. I know its normal for people to look @ their surrondings but it is downright disrespectful to do so in front of me. Sometimes I will be speaking to him and he will just ignore what I say because there is some other chick walking by or sumthing. I dont know what to do!! Mind u I have told him i dislike his behaviour and yet he denies ever doing so.
2006-07-30 11:11:58 · 23 answers · asked by angeleyez410 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's an poophead. Of course, guys like checking out other girls but they do it for their own satisfaction. I know, it's rude and all but guys are like that. If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't do such a thing because a girlfriend is more important than a wandering girl. Wandering eyes will find wandering girls. Find a guy with table eyes. Stable eyes will find stable girls.
2006-07-30 11:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you so badly and you have addressed it with no changes on his behalf then he is outright being hurtful to you. This is a red flag. It is natural to look but it is not natural to do it in a way that detracts from your mate. He could see a beautiful woman pass by but his eyes should never leave yours. If he hasn't mastered this, he has a lot of growing to do. I have been in a room full of fine men on a date, but I make my date think that he has my undivided attention and this is just a date, not my boyfriend. I do this out of common courtesy and respect for the feelings of others. This is just decent. Your guy doesn't sound like he possesses common courtesy which could spill over into other important areas of his life. Be worried and be ready to let him go if he continues to disrespect you.
2006-07-30 11:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a constitutional difference between men and women. Men are made to look at women, they are visual that way. Although most men learn to be somewhat discreet about it, they pretty much all do it. Women usually aren't as visual. What you have to be concerned about is whether he is doing something more than looking, or if he is obsessed with looking, as opposed to doing it casually. In the movie "Cinderella Man" the boxing champion's wife routinely asks him after a fight: "Tell me about the girls..." Then she makes love to him using the words of the would-be groupies: "Oh Mr. Braddock you're so strong!..." etc. So you can work this God-given visual tendency in men into a faithful relationship.
2006-07-30 11:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a red flag. I used to do the same thing with one of my ex's. We had a really beautiful thing. As much as I was attracted to other girls physically, I would be checking girls out and mistake her for another hot girl. That would be like the ultimate turn on, to be checking her out and mistake for someone else even for that split second.
Ex: we're out at target, we split up and i'm shopping and seeing girls, then I see this hot girl in the distance or out the corner of my eye, then i realize it was her. She always got a kiss from me once i realized what happend every time.
2006-07-30 11:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by dancinginplace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times after being together thiis happens.. It might be best to cool it for a while. Maybe he is not ready for a long time relationship., that;s when roving eyes start. But if you see less of each other then he will know what he is missing. Pem,
2006-07-30 11:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can look but not touch. Oh, wait that may be like that Pandora's box thing. Hmmm, maybe you should look at some guys while he is looking at you. Or maybe just dump him; you are 21- you have plenty of time to shop around. Let him know exactly why -maybe he won't do it to the next girl.
2006-07-30 11:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Iteachdailey4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every single human being has intrest in the opposite sex (well, unless your gay) and is intrested in how different other ppl are. me and my b/f check out hot girls together. ( no im not lesbo) be honest, if you see a hot girl walk by, dont you look at her? arent you intrested in her style and looks??? also me and my guy judge the guys we see too. if i see a hot guy, hell ask me if i thought he was hot and i wont lie! ill say yup! we both trust eachother, but hes with you for a reason. FOR YOU! im sure none of these girls have qualities like you exept for they all have puss1es!!
don worry about it. tell him how you honestly feel.. see how he would react if you did it. then when your comfertable, play along and agree with his eye candy. it will make things more comfertable.
2006-07-30 11:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweey its natrual for his eye to wander....they are hard wired for that. Just know that he is with you and you shouldn't be insecure about him lookin at other women, trust me he does it without realizing what he is doing most likely.
Now if the boy is drooling over the girl, you def have a reason to slap the hell out of him.
Good luck
2006-07-30 11:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by latina21_01ucf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat it boys are pigs & look at every girl they see.. its funny b/c i walked into victoria secret the otha day and this woman who worked there wasz like hey would you girlsz like any help? we were like no we're just looking thx & then shes like aight then im gunna give you a life lesson learned from me shes like boys are PIGS they all SUCK see when ur young you should just be a playa and have 3 or 4 guysz on the side so that when one cheats on ya or u just get sick of them you have a couple left to be wit. LOL it was soo funny & random when she told us that we were just tryna get sum sweatpants! ...not a life lesson lol
2006-07-30 11:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how much of this is real, and how much is manufactured by your own mind: are you really worried about some other orbs than eyes wandering? (Pardon the indelicacy!) If you cannot deal with your own feelings, leave him to his own behaviour.
2006-07-30 11:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋