hi everyone, my brother-in-law is getting married next sat. over a week ago, my sister-in-law told me and my husband that the rehearsal dinner is the thursday before the wedding. other than that, she didnt know the specifics. i was reminding my husband to call his brother to find out where, what time, etc. my brother-in-law beat us to it by calling his mom and tellling her to tell my husband and the sister that it's not necessary for us to attend. granted, we're not in the wedding but this is immedite family. is this right? given my experience with my brother-in-law thus far, this is yet another attempt at being cheap. please advise.
2006-07-30 10:40:38 · 10 answers · asked by cd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Protocol is to invite everyone involved in the wedding and your out of town guests.
2006-07-31 06:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by cathryn888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, the wedding party is a way of saying thank you to the wedding party., but.... since the groom's parents are suppose to pay for the rehearsal dinner, i feel like the immediate family should be invited, and the groom's parents provide for the immediate familiys needs. If its a very expensive situation, and you want to attend, contribute to the occasion by offering to help pay for your meals. This offer would probably be a harminous way to be apart of the situation, and not cause any drifts among the family.
2006-07-30 17:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by twanda_C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice gesture to invite your immediate family, even if they aren't in the wedding, but it's not a given. I don't think it's a matter of being cheap....rehearsal dinners aren't necessarily a cheap thing to do to begin with and are usually meant for the wedding party and their spouse/significant other, along with the parents of the bride and groom.
2006-07-30 22:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is generally only the wedding party.
sometimes people also invite family that has come in out of town for the wedding.
also some people choose to invite the grandparents out of sentimental reasons.
obviously anyone can do it anyway they want. but what another poster said is true..........there is no reason for anyone but the wedding party and maybe the parents to be at the rehearsal dinner as they would have no reason to be at the actual wedding rehearsal to being with.
2006-07-30 17:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not being cheap. You're being ridiculous. Rehearsal dinners are for the wedding party only. (Or, at least, the ones I have been in). Look at it this way-what purpose would you serve there? None. This is for the wedding party to get their act straight, who sits where, practice speechs, etc. Too many extra people would get in the way. Just be excited to be attending the wedding.
2006-07-30 17:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are coming in for the wedding from out of town you should be invited to the dinner. All out of town guest should be invited. How ever if your brother in law doesn't have to guts to call you or your husband personal and has to run to mommy ,do you really want to be there?
2006-07-31 10:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anastasia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You're being ridiculous." This person is way out of line in more ways than one. I'm sorry for that.
Rehearsal dinners, for those who follow proper etiquette and tradition, are all attendants, immediate family members, spouses of attendants/family members, parents of children in the wedding (if the kids are invited), and the officiant and his/her spouse. Out-of-town guests are optional, but if you can't invite them, you need to have someplace else for them to go so that they aren't wandering around forgotten.
I agree that your BIL is just being cheap, or is simply a rude brute and misinformed like so many of the answerers who preceeded me.
Good luck to you! : )
2006-07-31 13:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding rehearsal dinner is traditionally for those in the bridal party, and the parents of both sides. Also, parents of younger children in the bridal party.
2006-07-30 23:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usualy its the brides family, the grooms' family, and then all the people in the wedding party plus their dates. Its usualy 2 nights before the wedding.
2006-08-03 12:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is generally just the wedding party and their dates. Sorry you are not included, but suck it up. Its not your day.
2006-08-03 15:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋