My gf and i have been dating for over a year. I am going to be a sophmore in college and her, a freshman. problem is, i cant remember the last time we had a good conversation. everything else in the realtionship is great, we just dont talk much anymore. i am worried that we might have just fizzled out from going out so long. any input?
2006-07-30 10:12:38 · 16 answers · asked by John W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good conversation requires good quality time together. Do you spend a lot of time apart or do you spend time together out at clubs or something where you don't get one-on-one time? Do you live together and have morning and bed time together where you could reconnect?
I personally think it is great to have someone that you like to spend time with - it doesn't have to be a big deal. You are both pursuing different education, maybe it's nice to have this area of your life "handled" while you don't have the time or drive to find someone else - or maybe you want some time to yourself?
Only you know what you want and what is best for you. If meaningful conversation is important to you - and despite having plenty of opportunity you are not getting it in this relationship, maybe it is time to end it. If you are so busy that you don't really have the time to spend talking to your girl now, you likely will have no time to look for a new one either (let alone all that "new relationship" attention you have to put in).
Choose carefully. Peace!
2006-07-30 10:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's interested in someone else. Maybe you are not that madly in love with her anymore. That's not the reason why when you said I am worried that we might have just fizzled out from going out so long. You two probably just don't feel the same way you two felt like before. If you still love her then sit with her and tell her what you felt between you and her was not like it use to be. Then things might be ok.
2006-07-30 10:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is something you have to work at. You definately need to discuss your concern with her. You should definately try to work things out in a long term relationship. Too many people are too quick to just throw away what they have, thats why divorce rates are so high. Now if you just dont have feelings for her anymore or someone else has come into the picture be honest with her so she can move on and find the person shes meant to marry one day.
2006-07-30 10:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared to say what's on your mind? Do you consider something that's not about feeling, or daytime TV award winning not good?
Here's the deal. If you're bored, leave. If you're not, stay. Worried about coversation... that's crazy. 99 percent of the time, women are doing all the talking anyhow, so maybe she's getting bored with you. Work on attracting her, and building sexual tension. Next time you guys get in the car together, adjust her seat. act like you're going to kiss her, and then look away and adjust her seat. do stuff like that 3 or 4 times throughout the night. then DON'T PUT OUT. Make her work for it. Women are used to being handed sex on a silver platter... Put the ball in your court
2006-07-30 10:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by rpalm82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are growing, but not together. It happens all the time that people drift apart as they change and grow. After the physical part is no longer carrying the relationship, you need to be able to rely on the friendship part of the relationship as well. Without it, you're not left with much.
2006-07-30 10:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times, couples run out of things to convesate about because they spend too much time together. I'm not saying that you should see other people, but explain that you've reached a point in your life where you need to explore who you are. Hopefully she won't think it's a pack of bull. Maybe she feels the same way you do.
2006-07-30 10:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by nicnic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 good reasons to say so-long ma'dear:
1. your goals dont mesh
2. the laughter has died
3. the relationship causes more stress than joy
4. you're complete opposites
5. you don't connect spiritually
hope that helps...its just a starting point, but it sounds to me like you might already have your answer...GO with the gut!
2006-07-30 10:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by mello83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the relationship has 'fizzled'--then it's time to move on,and keep the good memories.
Best wishes.
2006-07-30 10:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try new experiences with her. Instead of just talking on the phone do new things with her. If you already go to the movies go to the park, go bowling, go to see plays, go to museums, go to amusement parks. Go on double dates with her friends and vice a versa. Go out with her and her friends or you bring her along with you and your friends. You will have alot more to talk about and you will probably become closer.
2006-07-30 10:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋