why is it Asian, Filipino & Hawaiian girls don't seem to like Black men?

Question

I am a 27 yr old black man from the La, CA. I'm 5'9", 160 lbs, w/ big drk brown eyes, shrt black hair, milk chocolate skin & a medium build. I am working on my degree & work full time for a hospital. *****Here is my question....It frustrates me that most Asian, Filipino & Hawaiian girls seem to not be attracted to Black men. More like repulsed really. I suppose you could blame the media. Black males are portrayed as criminals n gangsters but why is it these women as asmart as they are can't look past that & see all black men are not like that? I have been raised in the suburbs in a city with many asians... and have many asian friends as well (both male & female) but it seems they have such a dicfficult time even comprehending being with a black man. Drop me a line here or im me **signed single frustrated & confused in Los Angeles**

Answer 1

are you frustrated because you like us? *wink wink*
anyway, i think sometimes it's because of our upbringing. our parents come to US and watch all those TV shows, see all the black guys getting arrested, got scared, tell their kids not to date black guys. I think truly intelligent women won't reject you because of your skin color. I personally have no problem with black men. but then again, my mom is not a typically asain mom, she couldn't care less about who i date(or so she says). she says, "well, i give birth to you and that's painful enough. you need to think about who you date yourself." what i can tell you is, not all asain girls are like that. so, don't be frustrated and confused!

Answer 2

My sister married a white dude and we all love him, he's one of the family, so we not all like that. I honestly don't care as long as the black woman I see a white dude with ain't my wife, lol. There's a lot of self-segregation in the black community and an intolerance to outsiders. It's stupid, but to a lot of black men, a black man with a white woman is viewed as a sort of justice: something he's taken from "the man", while a white guy with a black woman is seen as a hostile intrusion into the black community. Sorry to say, but the black community struggles with progress too. The idea of "color-blindness" is something many black people expect of other races, but feel no obligation to live up to themselves.

Answer 3

Dude, I think it is your location, LA has tons of racial hostility. I moved from the central valley to the Midwest about 5 years ago. I have never seen so many mixed race couples in my life.

Think about moving to the midwest area. Try Chicago (more like LA) or Minneapolis (More like San Fransisco). It is actually pretty good here. World class cities, good nightlife, really diverse. Cheaper cost of living than the coast. The weather keeps all the flakes out. Solid economy...

Ha plus no rolling blackouts, my folks said is was 116 where they live this week and they had blackouts, had to use the generator for the AC so they could sleep.

Anyhow where I live there are tons of brothers and tons of asian girls. A lot of Hmong girls don't want to date/ marry in their race because it is so traditional the families don't want them to go to college, and they think they might like to. Plus a lot of them like the hip hop music. You could have a chance out here if that is what you are after.

No offense but people in LA can have bad attitudes, especially if you are looking for love.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Brother...this coming from a sister.....when all you see is crime and confusion from the black race...it ruins it for all of us....in LA it could be the worst place for a brother to try and show that he is somebody. Just by looking at you, one can not tell if you are from Hollywood, or Compton, some of our brothers, with the crime and drugs, and the media showing nothing more than black crime, and blacks filling our jails, have given us all a bad rep for being a color of black. Just like with the low success rate amongst black men...most don't even want to ask...they just assume....Being with a black man into today's society, one can be looked upon as his Bytch,,,or his hoe...because with all the gangster slang in music today... In the music video's all it seems is black men go for is the trashy stripper type...and no one wants to be viewed in that manner.it is very unfortunate, but even if you are a good guy, and i am sure you are...many will not take a chance to look into you deeper...just by the Chance that you may associate with the gangster crowd....maybe if you would look at finding life with a hard working black female and not worry about those girls that find you repulsive,,you could show us black women that we do have some good brothers out there.....

Answer 5

im an asian.particularly a filipino lady.people especially women have their own preferences when it comes to a guy.its not because you're black means that they only look at you as to what the media portrays black men.every people are different.lucky you,you got friends.maybe,having someone that belongs on that race isn't really meant for you.don't get frustrated and live life to the fullest!

Answer 6

its not the fact youre black. Ive seen many asian female/black male couples and I live in LA also. Maybe its your game thats lacking.

Answer 7

i agree with you. i lived in hawaii for a year and return at least 2-3 times a year and get the same impression but i also get that impression from other races as well. i think most of it depends on the area that you are in. the more socially accepted "we" are the more likelihood of acceptance for dating.

Answer 8

i am an asian women and i could see that the trend today says that white or caucassian is a lot more handsome than any other race. but for me, i dont agree with that... i prefer race same as mine.. asian... but i do like caucassian too... but that doesn't mean i hate black men... hey, didn't you see that denzel washington is as hunk as tom cruise?? or Usher even more sexier than Orlando Bloom....

Answer 9

That's bullshit, I know alot of filipinas with black guys. Don't use the media as an excuse, you just need more confidence. ^_^

Answer 10

awwww, thats so sad