She doesn't like it when I go the gym, because she wants me around more, she complains to other people that the baby cries too much and takes up too much time, and she draws family pictures with the baby missing. I try to spend time with her, but the baby takes a lot of time. My husband spends a lot of time with her, so I can take care of the baby, but that does not seem to help. Will this go away?
2006-07-30 09:22:03 · 11 answers · asked by geekgirl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Create a "first born day" with your 5 year old. Make it one day a week that is all for her. Have someone watch the baby for you. If you can't do it weekly, then maybe a "first born hour" during the day that you could do on a daily basis.
2006-07-30 09:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by LeAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common for children to be jealous and mean to the newborn. She was the center of your world for 5 years and now she has to share mommy. Make sure you take time everyday to show you're love. When the baby is sleeping, read her a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), and things that show she is the "big girl" (she can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby...getting a diaper, let her pick out baby's outfit, help with the bath...) Tell her that she is so lucky because she is a big sister (maybe even get her a big sister shirt). She can do so much more than a baby because she is older. Tell her things like "You did that by yourself! Look how high you climbed! You used so many colors on your picture!" These are great confidence builders! If she keeps getting messages like these, she should start to feel more confident in her new world and happy with a younger sibling. Be patient!
2006-07-30 21:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to set aside a special time for just your 5 yr old. she doesnt understand how much work a baby is. instead of your husband spending time with her so you can take care of the baby, let your husband take care of the baby and you and your 5 yr old do something special together, regardless of what it is she will see that she is just as special to you as that baby. you are her mother, you need to make and find the time for her...and as the baby gets older your 5 yr old will not be so jealous..try taking her to the gym with you and that could be your special time together, and maybe lunch with just you and her..
2006-07-30 16:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_girl200501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sending someone else like your husband isn't going to do the job...not when all shes wanting is mom...at 5 she is pretty smart and knows the difference...maybe you can make a "spacial" time for you and her once a week...talk alot with her say you know that mommy is busy but we will do this at this time once a week just for me and you....or involve her in your daily activities with the baby...i know its tuff i have a 9 yr old and a 16 mth old and yes one on the way....its very trying as a mom....but then again there happiness is all that matters right now right??? good luck hope it pans out for ya!!
2006-07-30 16:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by thingsthatmakeyougo...hmmm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5 year old son and I was kinda afraid how he would react to a new edition of the family. He seems happy and can't wait, but on the other hand will he be able to accept that it's not all about him anymore and mommy can't give him all that attention he used to get.
2006-07-30 19:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with both of them together, you can do that. Play games with your five year old when your baby is with you, Do family activites, and trade spots with your husbabd, let him watch the baby while you bond with your 5 year old. Include and Bond are the keys to a succsessful family.
2006-08-02 14:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by txagl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try switching
you take care of the baby while your husband takes care of her
then the next day make your husband take care of the baby and you take care of her keep on switching like this and on saturdays and sundays both of you try playing with the newborn and the toddler
2006-07-30 17:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Chicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would probably start acting silly with the 5yr old around the baby. do little things like pla y with the babys toes and say things like look at the little tose woses or little things like that thats what i do with my 5 yr old and it helps because now he loves the babies toes.
2006-07-30 16:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by motherof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the older kid is jealous of baby....give a special time just with the older one ....even if its a few minutes and reward good befavior...being jealous is a human trait we all have
2006-07-30 16:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by benitasuewatson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and include her in with helping with the baby, that might make her feel more included
2006-08-02 16:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by liss843 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋