Does your partner help around the house and if so how much is the right amount?

Question

Does your partner help around the house? if so how much? Does it mean that if your partner does the cooking you should clean,iron and do everything else? or do you think you should share the load seeing as the kids are half his? Also does it make a difference if the man is home as much as you are? Or does this mean he still does less? Please women and men answer this one!

Answer 1

sharing the load is subjective to the people involved.

Answer 2

It all depends. If the husband works and the wife doesn't, then the wife has the "job" of being a parent and of 'Keeping house".. which includes most of the cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc etc etc. That is her JOB and she's getting paid by being able to spend time with her kids and also by having all of her bills paid for her by her husband.

However, if BOTH parents work then the load should be shared. Whoever likes to cook should cook, but the partner should do dishes and clean up afterwards. Both should share the laundry duties, or whatever duties there are.. but that's only if both work.

I think it depends on a lot of things, and too many women nowadays do all of the housework and let their husbands get away with being SO lazy and they shouldn't...

Answer 3

My husband is the best when it comes to this. He does the nightly cooking, dishes, garbage, and the bathroom and the kitchen/dining room once a week. I do the laundry, ironing, and folding. We both put away our laundry, and our daughter puts hers away. I then clean the living room once a week from top to bottom. As for our bedroom, whoever gets out of bed last is the one that makes it. Our daughter is responsible for cleaning up after herself and cleaning her room, and then once a week I clean her room with her. When it comes to taking care of our daughter, we share it 50/50, even though she is my daughter from my first marriage and he adopted her, like I said he is the best. As for after school activities, whoever is home is the one that takes her. If we are both home, then we go together. My husband was a stay at home dad until my daughter finished kindergarten, now he works full time as do I too. The chores between us has always been the same. We try to do a lot as a family, so there are times we just all work together.

I have to be honest with you though, I am a perfectionist about chores so often I have to be relaxed when he has done something. Otherwise I would be going non-stop 24/7. I also claim my daughter. I hardly ever look at it as she is half his even though he did adopt her and a wonderful daddy!

Answer 4

We share - but are good at different things so that is how chores are split. We both work full time at demanding and tiring jobs. Whoever gets home first gets a head start on the chores. When I was home with the kids I did most of the chores. When he was home he did most of the chores.

When all the kids were home and the chores cut into the time we could spend with the kids we employed a housekeeper.

My friend's slobby husband claimed to "help around the house". When challenged he said:

"I sometimes put the milk bottles out."

and he got very upset when we laughed (it was the "sometimes" that did it!)

Answer 5

Yes my partner helps .. he doesnt cook but then again he tried it once and i wouldnt want him to do it again, he also doesnt iron.. but he does do the washing and hangs it out which i go and rearrange ..lol .. every weekend he hoovers the bedrooms and the stairs whilst i do downstairs ... He works full time and I do supply work so sometimes i'm not at work but he still insists on doin his share .. we dont have kids together but his come to visit on a weekend (4 of them) and I cook for them and look after them as if they were my own ... at the end of the day its wot u and him decide to do that counts and only u 2 can work it out .. xx good luck xx

Answer 6

It depends on the whole load of work, if each partner works the same amount of time, then half-half of the household work is the fair amount.

At the end, between work and housework both partners should
work half-half. I think none should have more workload than the other.

About the specific shores, that can be negociated...

Answer 7

Yes, he does...I am a stay at home mom, but when my hubby gets home, he does a few things that I don't get to during the day. I think if one parent is at home the other shouldn't have to do much of anything. Especially if the kids are old enough to help out. If both are working, then the housework should be equal.

Answer 8

My husband does absolutely nothing. We have 6 acres of yard that I do. I do the house, cleaning, laundry, care of kids, cooking, and yea.. pay all the bills, changing the water filters and the air filters, weedeatting around the house, mow his moms yard, ironing, grocery shopping, taking the cars and trucks to get filled up on gas, inspections, and oil changes, gets the license stickers, work in the garden (veggie and flowers) and work 40 plus hours a week. I am lucky if he even picks his dirty socks up off the floor where he took them off. So... if you man does ANYTHING AT ALL. be thankful. PS.. any of you want mine to see what its like.. to have it ALL TO DO. just let me know.. I will send him right over. PSS.. he does work 37.5 hours a week at his job. I guess I should be thankful for him working.. somewhere. ehhh?

Answer 9

He helps around the house by paying a cleaner to come in once every 2 weeks for a couple of hours. It's great!! He also takes out the garbage and recycling (after I nag him about 50 times) and does his own laundry. All in all, not too bad of a tradeoff.

Answer 10

if he works full-time and you don't , you naturally do more of the housework,just because you are there more, but if he cooks, you could do the dishes and so on, you are meant to be a team. but if you want something done you should ask him to do it, men aren't too good at picking up subtle hints and if he loves and appreciates you, he won't mind being asked. the main thing is that you appreciate eachother and enjoy being a family together, the world won't end if the furniture isn't dusted every day..

Answer 11

My husband only helps to make a mess! Absolutely nothing else, can't even manage to put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket! He does help with the kids at weekends, though...

Generally, I don't mind as he is the one earning a wage. I do get fed up when he takes time off work , though - he gets to have a complete rest, but I don't get any days off all year!