why is my 12 year old teen girl beligerant?

Answer 1

There many be a lot of different reasons... either way, you better set her straight as to who's the boss right now, before she becomes a teen.

Answer 2

First of all a 12 year old isn't a teen and you referring to her as one is saying something. Maybe you treat her as a teen, so of course she's going to act like a teen. Teens are beligerant. Try some consequences for her actions, or some DISCIPLINE.. have you heard of that word before? Just checking..

Answer 3

she is trying to draw a line in the sand she wants and needs some boundaries she is waiting for you to drop the hammer and stop her first with words or sanctions then if necessary the gloves come off and by all means bring whatever force you need to bear that will put her in check it may seem an unpleasant thing to do now but better now than when she too big to be handled and Please Please Please DO NOT BE HER FRIEND!!! if she hate you good that mean you doin your job and you should always gain strenght from the amount of unhappiness that comes from you being in charge and not the other way around so it seems like its time to put the pressure on her so do what you need to do and don't feel bad or ashamed about she will thank you when she is grown up responsible and has a job. take the battle to her GOOD LUCK!!! GOD BLESS

Answer 4

You answered your own question -- because she's 12! Yes, she's testing the waters and trying to see what she can get away with, and wanting to do the things some of her friends do whose parents may not be as attentive to their kids. Just remind her of the rules, and who the boss is, and don't back down. She'll appreciate (in time) your steadfast authority and will be more secure knowing that you always mean what you say.

Answer 5

What 12 year old isn't beligerant?

This too shall pass.

Answer 6

My daughter was in this stage, still is sometimes.
Like others have said, she's asserting her indepence in opinion, feelings, etc.
When my daughter crosses the line, then I let her know. But, nothing wrong with her having her own ideas, & such. I don't want a robot, or a replica of me.
But, still be her parent, and temper her sometimes rash/impulsive ideas & decisions. Which is why we're parents.

Answer 7

because she is a teenager and they are suppose to rebel. Their bodies are starting to go through lots of changes and this affects their mood drastically at times. I am a middle school teacher, so I deal with this all the time. Be patient and stern...it will pass!

Answer 8

Because she IS 12 years old and that is the behavior they are usually prone to participate and act out. Don't worry it does get better.

Answer 9

WE ALL GO THROUGH A PERIOD WHERE WE JUST CHANGE. IT HAPPENED TO ME WHEN I WAS 12 ALSO. I HAD ALWAYS BEEN A GOOD KID. BUT I JUST STARTED TO HAVE AN ATTITUDE WITH EVERYBODY FOR NO REASON. I STARTED GETTING IN TROUBLE AT SCHOOL ( ALL THE TIME). MY MOTHER DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, I HAD NEVER BEEN IN TROUBLE BEFORE. I DIDN'T CHANGE MY ACTIONS UNTIL MY SISTER TOLD ME HOW STANK I WAS ACTING. ALSO MY GRANDMA DIED AND I HAD TO REALIZE THAT WE SHOULD ALWAYS TREAT PEOPLE( ESPECIALLY FAMILY) WITH RESPECT, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN SOMETHING MIGHT HAPPEN AND YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE WAY YOU'VE ACTED. JUST TALK TO HER ABOUT HER ACTIONS HOPEFULLY SHE'LL SEE THAT SHE SHOULD CHANGE HER ACTIONS.

Answer 10

All teenage girls go through that phase in their life. They are going through some hormonal changes. It is very normal that they are acting out their independence. She will hopefully eventually grow out of this phase.