is it the truth?

Question

is it true that if your dad is not there for you & doesn't compliment you and doesn't tell you he loves you that you turn to guys, or if you are a guy and your mom doesn't do the above mentioned things that you turn to gurls? my mother says so, but i don't believe her? so is it true?

Answer 1

Yes it is true. on subconsicous level, you basically have desire to be loved by both genders.

both genders are very different. So you will go to different gender for different things. So if you don't have a father who love you, you won't feel comfort enough to go up to him so you will go find other man to take over your father's place.

Answer 2

I believe it is true in my life. I am not sure if it is in everyone's life. My father was not in my life since I was 7 years old. In turn I have been with more guys than most women my age. I wanted one thing, to be loved by them and I would do whatever it took for them to say that they love me. However once I realized I was on that path, I had to change my ways and forgive my father for not being there. I had to realize what type of men I was looking for and how to "program" myself to find different types of men. When I got divorced from my first husband, I looked for a man that would be willing to be a good man and interested in the family life because I had a daughter with the first husband. Now, I have been married to a wonderful man for almost 5 years. He is a great husband and father (he adopted my daughter).

Answer 3

There is overwhelming evidence that distant or damaged relationships with one parent or the other can have a profound affect on one's sexuality (among other things) later on. This is even more true with father's than it is with mothers...don't ask me why.

But here's a couple of examples of how a father's behavior could affect his child's life:

1. Dad hits mom, talks down to her and the children. His daughter is going to grow up only being familiar with this type of male/female relationship and is more likely to date, live with or marry a man that treats her like crap.

2. Dad is super macho and has a son that plays with dolls, likes the color pink and puts on mom's clothes to play dress up (this is very common with boys)...Dad demeans son, calls him a sissy and as he gets older, places unrealistic 'macho' expectations on his son because he doesn't excel at sports, he likes artsy things, etc. This boy could grow up thinking that he is different from all the other boys and believe that he is gay.

These are just very general examples. And it isn't the case for everyone. But I think these particular scenerios and other ones that are similar may partly explain why some girls stay in abusive relationships and why many gay men are in the arts and entertainment (honestly, I have never met a gay man who wasn't an artist, actor, singer, dancer, director...although I know that they are in other professions as well...I just haven't met any yet).

Answer 4

i dont really believe thats true, this is right that parents should be there for their children, but sometimes it so happens that they cannot give a lot of time to their children, or it might be that they are resistent, but its not bad if any one of them does that, because if one of your parents give you ample time and is more open to you, then thats fine, because sometimes its not intentional that your parents are not giving time as it is their job requirement, which they are doing for their family, or sometimes parents are resistent thats because it is their nature, but like i said it is perfectly alright if one of them is doing that, but it can be bad for the children if both the parents behave that way, if both the parents cant give time, one has to make a sacrifice for the children, since children should be their first priority, but in any case, children should never turn to other people for their problems, since whatever happens, its the parents who are your well-wishers, at the end of the day, one realizes that its them who take care of you and whatever they do is for the betterment of the children

Answer 5

Distortion of the truth.

For a lot of people having role-models as guides.. especially for social intereaction that men and women are supposed to have (like respect and all that jazz), kids DO need good role-models.

Answer 6

I DON'T THINK THAT IS NECESSARILY TRUE BUT I DO THINK THE ROLES YOUR PARENTS PLAY IN YOUR LIVES AFFECT YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. I KNOW THE FACT THAT MY FATHER HAS NOT BEEN AROUND AS MUCH AS HE SHOULD HAS AFFECTED MY RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER MEN.

Answer 7

No I think we all make our own choices, blaming parents for everything is a cop out