how do you tell your friend she is ruining her life .....she has 5 children and only 25 and she likes losers.?

Answer 1

How to tell her..straight and be convincing,25 and 5 children! wow

Answer 2

I am only 25 and I am pregnant with # 5 and I don't feel like my life is ruined. I love my children VERY much and would have 5 more if I could afford it. I don't think you should say anything to her about how many children she has , it is not your business. As far as being with losers, my first husband was awful and I always felt like nobody would want me , she may feel the same way. She might be looking for acceptance and love and the " loosers" are wanting something out of her so they are just trying to get her by lying to her and she dosen't see what you see , because she is not on the outside looking in.

Answer 3

IF she is your friend, then eventually she will realize that what she is doing is hurting not only her children, but those who care about her too.

If by the time child 5 arrives she has NOT realized this IS a problem (with the losers) do you really think you can change her views of males in just a moment? The only thing you can do is listen -- but try to limit carrying her burden for these jerks. She needs to work this out for herself -- if not for her own sake, but for those poor babies she has already had.

PS -- is she aware of birth control services available to young women such as herself? Maybe a little brochure from one of those places put into her mailbox or on her table or just you saying (gee, this looks like something that might help you) would be a start. Again, limit carrying her burden and just reassure her that you will be there for her when she needs it. Then go on with your life and relax -- because some young adults take a long long time to learn what others learn in an instant.

Answer 4

I wish I knew. My sister was like this and she still dates losers. At least somewhere in that thick skull of hers, she had the brains to get fixed. Not only has she ruined her own life, she's now ruining the lives of her children. But you can't tell her anything. I've told her exactly what's going to happen with certain guys, and she stays with them and sees what I said was going to happen come true. But she still goes after the exact same kind of guys.

Answer 5

You need to be very careful on how you approach her. If she has 5 children, it is my hope that she loves them all. Being that she is 25 years old, unfortunately she hasn't realized that she deserves better than losers! Self esteem is obviously an issue. Tell her that you love her and try to be supportive her. She has five children to think about. They will learn from her and I would hope that she wants them to have good self esteem. This is a hard one. Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm sure her kids would like to here that you think she has ruined her life by having them. In what way do having kids 'ruin your life'?? Maybe she just likes kids. Maybe think about admiring her for doing a job chances are you could never handle

Its her choice, why does having a successful boyfriend make you a better person??? Stop being so bitchy, and accept your friend as she is

Answer 7

Unfortunately, she probably won't change. I'm sure it's a self-esteem issue and you can't change that in her. No offense to your friend, but people like that tend to bring misery onto themselves and then play the victim. She's made her choices and although it is heartbreaking to see her making the same mistakes over and over again there is really very little you can do except tell her you love her and maybe help her out once in awhile-but watch out, people like that also tend to suck you dry.

This is not me being judgmental but it's just the way it is with some people who need help, think they want it and don't really. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

Answer 8

You just have to tell her straight up and if she is a true friend, she'll listen and take everything into consideration. Beating around the bush or dropping hints doesn't work as I've learned. Just be prepared for any backlash. She'll more than likely be in denial.

Answer 9

If she will only date losers that end up hurting her, try to get her to go on a dating website. I heard E Harmony is the best, baybe she can find a good guy that won't leave her that way.

Answer 10

She is old enough to make her own decisions. She is ruining her childrens life which is more important. She should take THEM into consideration.