I have been with this guy for almost 1 year and he asked me to marrie him i told him yes,but my mother and father don't excatly love this idea I want to but is it too soon? I'm I rushing into this to fast???
2006-07-30 08:40:38 · 35 answers · asked by candace s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, it's too young. You haven't even seen what else is out there. Besides, if you guys really want to be together, just wait, it wouldn't hurt, would it? In 2 more years you will be 18 and if you still feel the same way then, then not even your parents can stop you since you are of age to sign.
2006-07-30 08:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Still Halloween 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, from experience, 16 is far too young. I was 16 once, and i knew it all, and i was going to be with my boyfriend forever - well without going into details; it didnt happen, and im so glad i didnt get married, that would have made it so much more difficult to break ties. If your relationship is really meant to be then in 5 years when you're still together you can get married. The only way to prove to everyone that you are ready for marriage is by withstanding the test of time. Although, i have to say, i strongly disagree with people who say you dont know what love is at 16. You definitely do. Just hold off for a few years, learn to stand on your own feet, find your place in the world, and i wish you well.
2006-07-30 08:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too young. You may think you love him now but you are only 16!! Later you will realize all the things you didn't get to do and you will take it out on each other and end up divorced before you're 21. Just wait a few years and if you two are still in love then it would be better. If he really loves you he will understand. Finish school and have fun with your friends. These are some of the best days of your life that you will remember forever!!!
2006-07-30 08:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by ArkyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, the answer is yes you are much too young. I know you probably feel ready since you said yes, but believe me, in your teens and twenties you grow and change so much. You should tell this guy that you need some time and if he accepts this, then he might well be worth waiting for. You don't say how old he is, but if he is the same age as you I would tell him the same thing as I am telling you. If he is much older then all the more reason to take your time, as he has already much more experience of life, and that is what you should have before making such a huge commitment.
2006-07-30 08:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hainer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY YEAH, hold up girl you don't need to jump off the cliff quite yet marrage is a really big thing and I takes time to be ready. I had a girl friend who got married about the same age it didn't work out but it did last like 2 years. My cousin was 18 and engaged to a girl for 2 years and they set a date a year away they broke up before they even made plans for the wedding. Are you sure this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life? Other wise might as well start saving for a lawer now.
2006-07-30 08:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy truly wants to marry you, then he will wait at least 2 more years ... more if he wants you to be able to grow up and experience life a bit before you become a wife and mother.
You think you're ready, but you're not. Marriage is HARD WORK and not just all romance and sex.
Your parents need to approve your marriage plans legally, and I hope they won't. You'd be miserable within a couple of months, have several kids and be divorced by the time you're 20.
2006-07-30 08:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by frankiquilts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 16 is way to young to be getting married. You need to take your time, because if you get married to young more than likely the relationship won't last. And then You are all alone and wonder why.
2006-07-30 08:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its too soon I did it and was divorced with 3 kids by the time i reached 21. We both changed a lot and grew apart even though we swore that wouldnt happen and it was mostly me who changed, his issue was cheating, he did it all the time. Its easy for an older guy to control a younger wife, that is until she matures and when she does it spells doom for the relationship.
2006-07-30 08:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About half of marriages break up after 7 years. I do know 2 couples in their late 60s who were married as teenagers.
2006-07-30 08:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by chris s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are - if you're both in love with eachother, and want to get married, then be engaged for a few years - you don't want to rush into things and have it not work out in the end. at 16 you're still trying to figure out who you are - let alone trying to add that person to your life forever....
There's no rush - so enjoy you're teenage years, and just chill :)
2006-07-30 08:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by xoxochemicalromancexoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋