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My boyfriend and I have been together over 3 years and he has cheated once, dated another girl when we were long distance, and slept with another girl when we were on a break. Am I stupid to stay with him?

2006-07-30 08:33:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Yes because he will never change I was with my BF for 5 years and I kept forgiving him his little"mistakes "as he called them and he never stopped,I know all guys aren't the same,but there must be a reason hes cheating if you want to stay with him find out what it is,if he is just one of those guys who wants his cake and eat it drop kick him to the curb and find someone who will respect you and be true to you

2006-07-30 08:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 1 0

think of it this way if u did those things would he stay with. NO NO NO once a cheat always a cheat. so he cheated more than once if he dated another girl and then slept with another girl. i know if my bf of 2 yrs went on a date with another woman or kissed someone he would be on the ground crying cuz my foot would go right between the legs then he would be long gone. but if u have kids u two should try counsling

2006-07-30 15:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by marynew8 3 · 0 0

Odds are, he'll do it again, but the best way to know is to understand why he cheated. Generally cheaters fall into one of two categories (sometimes both). One type has bad judgement and allows their self to get into situations where temptation is overwhelming. For example, having drinks with an attractive lady and one thing leads to another. The other type will always have some sort of justification for doing what they did and a person like that probably has a different moral register than you do. I wouldn't necessairly call you stupid if you decided to stay with this person, but understand that if you do, you are probably setting yourself up for years of hurt. A cheater is a dishonest person (that's why it's called cheating), it's probably not the only dishonest thing about the person.

2006-07-30 15:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Custody Consultant 2 · 0 0

There's no way to know if he will never cheat again. The most he could give is his word, but that's still not a garuntee. I myself would never continue dating someone even if they cheated on me once, I think you should just move on, and find a guy that appreciates you for you, and is truly a one woman man. Take care!

2006-07-30 16:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by ------ 3 · 0 0

Yes you are. Once a guy cheats (or a girl, for that matter) they don't just stop. Odds are that those are the only times that you actually know about, there were probably other instances you aren't aware of.

2006-07-30 15:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by kalaka 5 · 0 0

Sorry to be blunt, but yes I think you are barking mad to still be with this cheating, sorry excuse for a boyfriend. It sounds like he is a serial cheat and you would be doing yourself a huge favour by dumping him and finding a man who loves and respects you as well as not being selfish enough to risk giving you an STI.

2006-07-30 15:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hainer 2 · 0 0

they dont change im afraid. If he done it a couple of times he likely to do it again. He may not and i may be totally wrong but in my experience it all about trust. My ex fella cheated on me and i could never trust him agian, i always questioned his whereabouts and in the end it killed our relationship. It was a big shame coz we were togehter 9 years but he ruined that and i couldnt forgive him. good luck.

2006-07-30 15:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by woodentop 2 · 0 0

If he really loved you he wouldn't have done those things. Even if you were on a break, that shows how much he cares about you if he'll just go out and have sex with someone else. He obviously has a roaming eye. Please do something before you wind up hurt. Find someone who appreciates you.

2006-07-30 16:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Puma 3 · 0 0

He's got a bad track record. Probably you should move on to a more stable person

2006-07-30 15:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 4 · 0 0

No you're not stupid to stay with him if you appreciate his behavior. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

2006-07-30 15:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0 0

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