what do you do when your son just turns two and he is too much to handle?

Question

My son just turned two and he is getting to be a pain... he screams non stop hits bites and doesn't listen at all. He won't even come to me when he is upset anymore... should I just leave him alone or what?

Answer 1

its the terrible twos..welcome..get used to it..he'll get over it withn the year.

Answer 2

Oh the wonderful world of motherhood and the *terrible two's* :-)
Be patient - be consistent - still be a mom. He is still listening to you even if you don't think he is thru all that screaming and all that hitting and biting - he still needs you to teach him right from wrong and that's what you need to do now even though it might seem like a mountain too hard to climb over in such a small package lol But stick to your guns in the discipline areas if he bites or does other things that need it - consistency is the key and no don't leave the little guy alone :-)

Answer 3

Children will be children!!! Love them no matter what. If you show them that being ugly and getting upset dosen't make you upset then they will catch on pretty fast that the behavior is not doing anything for them. I have 4 children my oldest is 7. They are very well behaved children and are all very loving . It is true that all children go through a stage in their life when they want everything their way , and now!!! If you don't give in and tell them you love them very much , but this is the way it is , then they will back down from the bad behavior pretty quickly ! Good luck and enjoy them at this age, they learn so much during this year .

Answer 4

Everyone is right. Welcome to the Terrible Twos. I dealt with it by giving my son choices. There's a great article on this. (Link 1)

The best advice is at Link 2. It worked (part of the time!) for my son. I had a terrible time with the biting and hitting. I hate to admit it, but I finally broke him of doing it by "pretend" hitting and biting him back. I didn't really bite or hit him, I poked gently or put his hand in my mouth then wailed and cried like I was him. It was out of desperation, mind you, but it actually worked. I really can't recommend it, though -- my son is now 34 and back in the seventies they wouldn't arrest you for pretending to hit or bite your kids. Now they might! I imagine it worked by shocking the poor little dude that his Mom was such a psycho acting creature! Either that, or he thought it was play and it made him happy to have a playmate. Who knows? He doesn't seem to have come to any harm from it but who knows what it would do to another child?!

What I'm saying is that it will pass but if you can find a way to make fun with him doing it (not make fun of him, but with him) maybe it will make it easier for both of you.

Answer 5

I suggest you acquire some parenting skills by viewing "Super Nanny", reading some good parenting books and if that doesn't help, see a counselor. When children act like this, you aren't approaching him right. Get at eye level, tell him in a calm, firm voice he is to stand in the naughty corner or 1 minute. This takes practice on your part to remain calm and be firm. You are the parent and need to take charge. He is also 2, they don't call it "the terrible two's" for nothing!

Answer 6

Defintiley the age of 2 years old is when they are very curious about everything. They want to do things on their own and also want to explore anything and everything they can get their hands on. Also, their little tantrums. Try putting him in time out for two minutes. Tell him why he is in time out. Even if you have to put him in that timeout all the time you have to be consistent and don't ever slack. He is entitled to his own feelings right now. He is learning all different kinds of emotions. If he is mad at you then let him cool down himself I am sure after his stubborness is gone he will come running in your arms. Just closely watch his behaviour and if you feel something isn't right tell your childs doctor. Good Luck !

Answer 7

You shoudl spank his hiney when he is being bad . Seriously. It is not being mean- it is teaching him that he cannot act like a crazy person. YOU are the parent and HE is a child and HE should respect YOUR rules and punishments. If this goes on when he is 2 imagine him at 15. you need to HANDLE this NOW. Don't ignore it or it will only get worse. let him know your expectations, give him a warning and then step up and take responsibility and make HIM take responsibility for HIS actions by ENFORCING punishment when he misbehaves.

Answer 8

Children act on what they see. Do you hit, scream, or behave any of the same ways? I would reccomend going to the library and getting the Discipline Book by Dr. Sears. If you feel you might loose it, go get proffesional help. Babies and toddlers don' understand yelling they just get scared. Also you are his mother, he needs you, don't give up, it is never to late. Good luck

Answer 9

i never agreed with the rest of the world about the "terrible"
twos...i always thought of them as the "terrific" twos...though children are discovering themselves both vocally and also that they have teeth...they can be so much fun...they need constant attention...now is the time to teach them everything you can...it will require a lot of energy on your part...but the thing NOT to do is yell at them or scold them constantly...understand that your son is trying to express himself...but doesn't know how to yet...he is only two...getting upset with him will not help him...it will only discourage him...being firm is one thing...but look into his eyes and talk to him...two year olds are so smart...they just have all this info within themselves...and no way of knowing how to get it out...put on some loud music...teach him how to pick up his toys while dancing...play with him...read to him...chase him in the yard...when he bites...look him in the eyes...make a sad face...tell him that's not nice...and that it hurts...do NOT EVER bite him back...it won't teach him anything...he learns everything from you...if you teach it to him with joy...he will be a happy individual...if you lable him as terrible...he will always feel terrible...cherish these moments...teach him his colors...his shapes...you will have to be on the go constantly...but isn't it worth it just to see him smile?...btw...i have 3 beautiful children...the oldest two are teenagers now...youngest is 8...they grow up so fast...i wish they were two again...those are the sweetest times of a child's life...be cautious of the way that you handle it...

Answer 10

You do not wait it out. You act now, You get down to his eye level when he is bad, tell him what he did wrong and to stop. Also, explain to him that if he doesn't he will have time out, where he will have to sit on a chair for a certain amount of time (2 minutes) as punishment. If he misbehaves, follow through.
Watch Supernanny for more info.

Answer 11

Terrible twos...Going through the same here...I just stay consistant with the punishments and he's getting a bit better, but unfortunatly it's the age....good luck...need anything drop me an email or im...later...Good Luck!