we've been going to marital councelling,he's excited,im excited.all things are set and ready to go.only problem is his family hasnt returned ANY of their response cards.once i give the final count to the place im having it at thats it.what do i do.we've been calling everyone,the cards are already prestamped and everyone just keeps saying they dont see the point if they SAY their coming.we dont have the money to waste on SAY.we need to KNOW,just drop the card in the mailbox SHEESH!!!.i dont want him to be dissappointed if its mostly my family.what do i do?his family is a lil rough around the edges so response cards and classy affairs is something foreign to them
2006-07-30 08:11:36 · 13 answers · asked by mrs.dynomite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't worry yourself. There is nothing you can do about your family. Just count those that have responded via phone as your wedding guests.
Don't stress yourself over this because that could effect your health, your relationship with your family/fiance, your apparence (acne, weight, posture, etc), and other things.
Have a beautiful wedding. Work at keeping your marriage peaceful. Communicate always in a kind tone with your husband. Most importantly, if you're a Christian, invite Christ in your marriage.
:-)
2006-07-30 08:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sylves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly it sounds like you are entirely to caught up about recieving the cards back. If you call a potential guest and they say that they are attending then make note of it and keep count. It is very common for people to not return RSVP's. Dont stress over getting them back if you can get a response on the phone. There is always going to be someone that says yes but doesnt show. Just make sure to tell the people that you are having to call that you have very limited seating and you need to have a final count. NO EXCEPTIONS!
2006-07-30 08:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by emismommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best wishes for a happy wedding day.
Obviously, this man is your childhood sweetheart and you must have met his family before. Since you want to keep peace in the family, plan on a set number of answers from the people you have called. I don't understand why they can't send in their response cards. How hard is it?
2006-07-30 08:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by mac3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,congratulations to you both.As for your question,if I was in your position I would explain to his family that if they don't respond to the invitation then they will not be included on the guest list,also tell them that you are only trying to be thorough so that your wedding day is as special as you and your fiance deserve it to be with as few problems as possible.If they can not understand that and do not want the same for the 2 of you then they just don't need to be there.
2006-07-30 08:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by leila rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get on the phone with his family members and get straight answers out of them. He needs to explain that he has to have an exact count for the wedding and you guys can't afford a "maybe we'll be there" - he has to be firm with his family and let them know if they don't respond and give a straight answer, they aren't going to be having dinner.
2006-07-30 08:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to call the people that do not send in their RSVP cards. I know it's annoying, but we had a few people that we had to call, too, and we stamped the envelopes for everyone, too. People can be lazy. But, since it's his family, you can actually make him call them all. Just do it ASAP. You're running out of time and you need to finalize your seating chart. Good luck!
2006-07-31 06:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keep track of who "Says" they are coming because, from the sounds of it, you won't be getting the response cards back. It would be nice if they observed the common courtesy of a response but it doesn't sound like this is going to happen.
2006-07-30 09:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! Same thing happened to my sister and my cousin. People are forgetful and chances are they already knew about your wedding so they probably opened it, thought "Oh, how nice," and put it to the side. The clock is ticking. I think you're just going to have to back down and start calling them to make sure they're coming.
And congratulations!
2006-07-30 08:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that matter's is how your future husband feels. Talk to him. You are partners in EVERYTHING now. He knows how his family is,you don't. Stop the worry thing.It's not doing any good. Your making yourself sick...stop it. Talk to your man and do what he says. It's called...sharing the burden.
2006-07-30 08:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you will end up with a bunch of rednecks partying on the lawn.
2006-07-30 08:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋