PLEASE HELP!!!! i need it?

Question

there is this guy at the pool and he wil be going to my school who is like always buggin and harrassing me... i hate it!! he is like u know saying nasty stuff he wants to do with me.. and well i tell him to stop hes always lookin at my chest and asking if my bed is big enough for him and me... hess sscaring me and hes lmy age!! please help me

Answer 1

tell how much you hate him. if hes says something innapropiate slap him and go home stop dealing with it. get a big boyfriend for a day and have him whoop his booty.

Answer 2

Ask him if he has ever heard of a Probate Pre-Screener. That's a social worker, in some states, who specializes in community mental health intervention. Here in Ohio, a Probate Pre-Screener would receive a telephone report from a concerned citizen, that someone in the community is expressing dangerous (to self or others) thinking or behavior owing to a possible mental health issue. The Pre-Screener goes to the person in his home or elsewhere, determines if he may be dangerously mentally unstable, and if so, initiates the process whereby the individual is picked up, usually by the police, and usually against his will, and carted off to the mental health center, and possibly the State Hospital.

The person who's frightening you may or may not qualify for probating, but then again . . . . Let him know that his behavior toward you is antisocial and therefore may indicate an emotional problem -- and you may need to seek help for him -- for his own good, of course.

You might also phone the police (possibly the sexual crime unit, or even just the Dispatcher) to inquire about sexually harrassing and intimidating behaviors by a stranger. Then you can tell the jerk that you have been in communication with the police about individuals with his type of antisocial behavior.

Also, I recommend you take a class such as you'll find at these and other sites:
http://www.womenscenter.emory.edu/escape.htm
http://www.ohiowomeninc.org/orgs/impact.html
http://www2.ucsc.edu/rape-prevention/self-defense.html.

Women's rape prevention/self defense courses can give you tons of emotional and physical empowerment.

Answer 3

I know it is a pretty difficult time!!What I would suggest you is that you talk to the boy again and this time make sure you let him know that you would take serious actions against him if he doesn't stop this nasty stuff. If he still harasses you, you should talk to your parents about this. If you are from orthodox family you should avoid this. But you might just take some help from Cops or even press.They might be useful. If you can't do any of the above just slap him and then I bet that he would realise his mistake and he would be aware that if he doesn't stop he might come in serios problem. B ut till then I would just advice you that try to remain in your friends group wherever possible as these guys sometimes could be harmful. Best of luck. Have confidence and face him boldly as everyone goes through these situations.

Answer 4

If he keeps it up, start going to authority figures.
*** First, let your parents know this is happening. They may well opt to have a chat with his parents, or have some good advice.
***When it happens at the pool, complain to the manager.
***If it starts at school, go to the principal and complain. I don't know if this will be the case at your school, but at my childs' school, there is a harassment form which is easily available to obtain and turn in.
If he hasn't stopped when you've told him to, he evidently need some attention from adults. Besides, that's a not a behaviour that he should think he could ever get away with. Without some authority figure intervention, even if he stops harassing you, he'll just start with someone else. Nip it in the bud so other females don't have to put up with his crap either.
Good luck to you. Don't be afraid to go to others, it's not "tattling" in this case, it's very appropriate action.
Also, if he doesn't stop the first time you tell someone else, don't give up. Continue to report the behaviour to an adult every single time he does it. At least this provides proof of a pattern.

Answer 5

Try to never be alone when he is around. Ask the life guard if they have had trouble with him (for certain they have), and that will put you in their mental inventory of people this bully has been tormenting. Ask a police officer what to do. When you go to school and he is still there (with any luck he will have done something stupid elsewhere when a cop was watching), then schedule a visit with a counselor or a teacher that also teaches the bully. Keeping this wide circle of people in authority aware of your plight will put them on your side or at least aware when he becomes a real problem.

One more thought, if you ever see some guy that makes you think of what you would like to do with him--you've just done part of what the bully has done, which comes naturally to us all from time to time. He simply hasn't the good manners to keep it to himself. He is too busy enjoying his power in inflicting you mental pain.

There are people like that. Eventually we call them criminals. But sometimes they grow out of it and become good and normal folks. I had a friend who used to be like that and one day when we were talking about difficult kids he said, "I'm amazed to this day that someone didn't stick a knife or put a bullet in me when I was a teenager."

Answer 6

This goes far beyond ogling your breasts at a distance.

First step is to state to the offender that his comments are unwelcome and that he is to stop.

Saying sexual things that are unwelcome is harassment and usually is actionable.

I don't know what kind of pool it is. Is it run by the city? Go to the supervisor in charge--not the first employee you meet--but the person in charge. Ask what the pool policy is.

Once you are at school, you have a right to intervention if the harassment continues. Whether the school administration is responsive is another matter. For all the mouth music concerning preventing bullying and harassment, many schools drop the ball.

But you won't solve the problem if you don't ask for intervention.

Answer 7

Don't go around that guy! If you only see him at the pool then don't go to the pool anymore. He could seriously follow you home or get you in really big trouble. When you go to school again, if he is still bothering you, then tell the guidance counselor or some teacher. IF you don't want to tell them then tell your parents, mom,dad, whoever, but just tel someone!

Answer 8

Tell everyone you know what a a booby hatch this guy is. If he ever gets close enough to whisper his nasties in your ears kick him in the nards as hard as you can. Then scream as loud as you can and start accusing him of indecent advances. Make sure everyone hears you, Then start crying and keep accusing him and pointing at him while he writhes on the ground. Then promise him that you will do it again if he ever propositions you again.

Answer 9

sounds like you need to get a protection warrant thing, i cant think of what im tryin to tell you right now, they have those where he cant come near you or even go to the same school you do, good luck sug, and if all else fails, put a knee right between the legs :-P

Answer 10

Well if you hadn't sucked him off the time you got drunk at the pool he probably wouldn't have bothered you as much. As is you might as well get it over with, get knocked up and drop out of school. Welcome to the Welfare plan, while your at it, go head and down a bottle of drano.