serious relationship problem-PLEASE HELP?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now. (we are 20 yrs old) about two weeks ago he left me on a weekend to go on a fishing trip with his dad and two friends. i thought we had plans that weekend for a drive in movie friday night and a concert saturday evening. i guess somewhere i had gotten my lines crossed and was wrong. now that he is back, everything that comes up between us results in a huge argument. it doesnt matter what the problem is, we get into a fight over it. we love eachother dearly and were thinking about marriage...but i dont know why we are fighting like this-over EVERYTHING... it started a little before the fishing trip, and has been full fledged since...can you please shed some insight???

PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

Hey, it sounds to me like there was something going on during that fishing trip other than fishing, and most likely, I'm thinking it's gossiping about the girls. It's definitely not right for him to start cancelling plans that he made with you in order to go out with the guys.

He also sounds like a very aggressive guy. Is something bothering him that you might not know about? If it started a little before the fishing trip, try to think back real hard. Is there something that you might have missed or thought was kinda odd in his actions? Perhaps he was talking on the phone a lot with his father? Well, either way, I think you two should talk about this, and it might be time to move on with the relationship if he won't listen to your side. Most definitely though, he's got something on his mind, and he's taking it out on you. Try your hardest to get it out in the open and good luck, dear.

Answer 2

Sounds like the two of you are at a crossroad in your relationship. Perhaps you might consider the idea that both of you could use some time apart. You may want to go your separate ways to explore other relationships and life options. Maybe your boyfriend is feeling cornered and fighting is his way of distancing himself from you. Since both of you are 20 and have been together since you were 18, there is much to be seen and experienced on both of your behalfs. Try to have an honest discussion with your boyfriend about your concerns about your relationship. The fishing trip is just a smoke screen for the real problem. Get to the the real problem. It could be cheating, lying, or just him wanting to be without you. Be prepared for whatever happens and remember that life goes on. If you love someone, set them free. Live your life and allow him to live his. If it was meant to be, your paths will cross again but not through forced scenarios. This could be a sign that the best is yet to come for you.

Answer 3

honestly, i dont know. but I'm going through the EXACT same thing with my gf. We fought over where a street was, she even started a fight over me not wanting to argue. All I can think is that theres a little too much time together, but it shouldn't be that way. We're both trying to fix it, its been like this for about a month here, but I feel we'll stop eventually because we love each other. And I think you two will stop eventually, because you love each other and it will hopefully go back to the way it was before the arguments. All I can think of for you is that his dad and friends may have gotten into his head, they may have said bad things about you or something. If you want to stay with him, I'd say deal with it and try to make it go back to the way it was, even if it feels like it never will. It will most likely work out. Good luck!

Answer 4

Sounds to me like one or both of you are still have ill feelings about the fishing trip argument and the miscommunication around it. You need to revisit the problem and get everything out in the open so you can move past this together. If you talking about marriage, I can assure you this will not be the last time you two mix up your weekend plans.

Answer 5

he feels pressured by you, as if you try to take away the little freedom he was asking for
while you feel neglected, because he choose drinking beer and hanging out in the same underwear for 3 days instead of spending that time with you like you two had planned
most men (and some women) have a strong need for "me-time", when they can just take off for a few days without explanation. If you want to have a future together, he might need his weekends off, without needing to defend what he did. Offer him 1 weekend per month to do his own thing, and both of you will end up being much happier together.

Answer 6

If it is worth the fight, find a good counselor and get to the bottom. Ask him if you have done something wrong when you are not in the middle of a fight and ask him to answer honestly and openly. Otherwise, open up your heart and take a good look outside of the box. Are you ignoring other signs that may be there? You are still at an age that you are changing and growing at a fast pace. You can outgrow each other and not even be aware of it. Good luck and prayers to you both!

Answer 7

Sounds like you've gotten past the initial "lovey dovey" stage into the more serious "getting to know what each other is really like" stage. You just need to learn each others personalities and communication styles. You may well be thinking one thing when you say something, but he may interpret it much differently than what you intended. Be open and transparent about everything. If you're willing to get into a serious relationship, then the games absolutely have to cease and the real work begins...

Answer 8

Its sad but it sounds as if he is changing his feelings towards you. If you are always arguing then that is a sure sign of problems. Sit down and talk to him and get it all out in the open...whatever is on his mind, he needs to talk to you about. If you have discussed marriage then maybe he is thinking that hes not ready for that. Honestly, 20 years old is too young for marriage....Best thing you can do is sit and talk to him....and accept whatever the outcome is...If he wants to have a break then do it....but you remember that its a break for you both...and don't sit there and wait for your phone to ring.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Not to be a downer but are you absolutely sure that is where he went? Otherwise, maybe he needed time without you to contimplate your relationship. He may want to break up but not know how to do it without hurting you, so the arguments, unfortunately, will make it seem easier. This happened to me and we were together for 6 years, so I am not just saying these things for the heck of it.