Okay im 16, Theres this guy i met on a church retreat, i didnt like him at all, and well we kept in touch and 1 yr. later he asks me out and i say no, cuz i dont like him, i mean at all, Well No matter how many times i say i dont like you, and no, he keeps asking me out, God hes like a monkey on my back that i cant get off,my friend said to just tell him your a lesbian, lol, Well How do i get my point across too him, he is like really brave, he tried kissing me, one day and i slapped him, but he still comes around, How do i get him too stop asking me out?
2006-07-30 07:27:46 · 29 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I imagine if you kept in touch with a guy for a year after only meeting him once, you may not be as disinterested as you say. I would try to figure out how you really feel about him and then have an honest conversation with the guy.
2006-07-30 07:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by adelinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally cut off communication with him. If you keep in touch with a guy, even at a friendship level and he wants more than just friendship, it will lead him on. Guys think they still have a chance if you still keep in touch.
You will have to be more direct and cut him off. That's the only way he will get t he picture. Talking won't help either because he will think that you won't mean it because you are still keeping in touch. Trust me, I've been through this before. Good luck!
2006-07-30 14:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Umm Ok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he tried kissing you after you have made it plain that you don't want anything to do with him he can get in BIG trouble!
It sounds like he is stalking you, There are laws against that!
Explain in a nice way that you aren't interested and if he cannot understand that and keep his distance you will have to take further actions. (have someone with you for support as well as a witness) If he stays away the threat worked and you can go on about your life. If he still keeps hounding you go to your parents and tell them that he won't leave you alone and ask them if they would they help you to get a restraining order.
Stay as far away from him as you can don't make it look like you want to be near him.
PARENTS WILL UNDERSTAND!!! Tell them about him trying to kiss you after you told him you don't like him, that will definatly motovate them. If they refuse to help you with a restraining order ask them if they would talk to the boy's parents. If that dosn't work go to the police and explain to them what has happened and ask them what you can do.
Talk to your preacher/ pastor/ priest (whomever) and ask if they can talk to the boy about his actions. (I assume he goes to the same church as you ) you will get help and understanding.
If none of this works make sure you have a friend and a cell phone with you at all times, I am uneasy about his actions twards you and not to frighten you but if he is willing to still come around you after you slapped him there is an issue there that he hasn't resolved and is bound and determined to get HIS point accross.
Good Luck I hope he leaves you alone.
2006-07-30 14:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by lopezjri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a buzzer, pepper spray, or (what your friend said) tell him you're a lesbian. Saying you already are seeing someone works too. Or you could get a big, mean boyfriend that would kick his ***. If he still does you COULD charge him with harrasment. You could also stop talking to him (ignore the guy, don't call/keep in touch). Getting a restraining order works.
2006-07-30 14:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by windrunner023 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy doesn't seem to be taking no for an answer so i suggest not talking to him as much as possible. if he calls tell him you're busy if you see him at church make sure you're not alone with him. I'd also tell your parents because what he's doing is not right and they should know. If he's forcing himself on you it could lead to big trouble. If he won't stop threaten him with a charge of harassment. That usually works good luck.
2006-07-30 14:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have told him in no uncertain time you are not interested.
so report him to the police for sexual harrasment and get a restraining order out against him.
then if he breaks it he can get locked up.
are you sure he has a brain? he sounds brainless to me.
i mean being told no on several occasions and still to keep trying.
2006-07-30 14:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you like the attention. No other guys are bothering you like that. Who else is asking you out? No one so go with the flow and go out with him One time. Your about to give in anyway thats why your asking about it. Let it go girl.
2006-07-30 14:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is amazing person. But if you don't like him then neglect him. Donot pay attension towards him. Just be away from his ways. OR YOU HAVE TRIED "SLAPPING" ONCE THEN NOW TRY "SANDLES". Hurt him when he is with one or two people/his friends. If he has ego problem then this will help you.
2006-07-30 14:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he likes you then if you no a guy thats jus a friend go to church retreat wit him and b all ova each otha if yall r close
2006-07-30 14:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by kayla d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him you don't think of him that way and your happy being friends.and you don't want to ruin a good friendship.or get your self a boyfriend.he will soon back off. hope this helps
2006-07-30 14:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by fantasia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋