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I am currently dating a guy who gets actually furious when i dont have an orgasm he says things like it was a waist of time he hasnt done his job and negative remarks which makes me uncomfortable to be honest why is it so important and why cant it just be accepted that it was great sex should nt that be good enough have any ladies dealt with this problem i mean im about to start faking it, hes great in the bed it is just it doesnt happen always goodness feedback please

Answer 1

It is important to him because he really wants to satisfy you. Because you certainly are satisfying him! He wants you to feel what he does so you both come away satisfied. When you don't have an orgasm, he may think that if he can't satisfy you on a regular basis you may seek it elsewhere. It happens. He is very worried, insecure and afraid. Explain to him just that! That although you don't come everytime, you enjoy the intimacy you share with him.. Or role play. Show him what will possibly make you have an orgasm. Again let him know that it doesn't always happen, but it will and you definately want it to happen with him! Good luck..One more thing: Do not for any resason FAKE IT!

Answer 2

The guy probably feels he is inadequate in his pole oops role when you do not achieve an organism. I myself would like my partner (female) to have an orgasm or two or three or four...If not I would wonder why and perhaps talk about ways in making this happen i.e. foreplay or more of it for her, different positions, paraphernalias, etc.,

It basically gets down to open cummunication on both your part. Is there some reason why you are not? If so, tell him and he may accommodate your needs.

Or could it be satisfaction enough for you that you made him succumb, because I have had a relationship with a woman who is just that and gets off physiologically and not physically (dominance) when she makes me come & c u m & /

Answer 3

Find a new guy. If all he is looking for is you to have an orgasm when you have sex,then he is missing a great big part of making love. It is suppose to be an intimate time. It sounds as if your guy looks at it as a job that he is not happy with!

Answer 4

If he's complaining because you aren't having an orgasm he's probably worried that you're faking the whole thing and he's becoming insecure. I'd suggest trying to convince him the sex is great. If he continues to get angry try to work out his anger and if that doesn't work leave him, because something is wrong with him.

Answer 5

I think these remarks have to do with how he feels about himself. He thinks he should be able to do more in bed to help you achieve an orgasm. I think a pass partner might have told him it was his fault they couldn't come. And that is definitely not true, talk to him but I wouldn't fake it. Don't cheat yourself when it happens it will.

Answer 6

Sounds like his self esteem is wrapped up in his ability to satisfy you. Is he furious at you or at himself? If it is at you the get out now. If it is at himself then you have two choices. Either fake it or sit down and tell him that just because you don't have an orgasm doesn't mean you aren't satisfied.

Answer 7

its a common problem. some women just cant orgasm no matter how hard u try. tell him that its great but that it wont happen. also when all u think about is coming will delay it

Answer 8

honey, thats a dumb thing to get upset about on his part..... Try to talk to him and maybe brain storm on new positions and what not, use toys, and experiment together. If that doesnt work and you love him or what to still have sex with him, then yeah fake it, i think every women has once or twice(or dozens of times) He needs to understand that women dont always get to climax, and thats just part of life.

Answer 9

Tell him if he initiates longer forepaly with you, this could possibly help lead you to having an incredible orgasm, try it, it works.

Answer 10

it does no longer artwork ut too nicely with me with the aid of fact i'm a woman of few words. so there could be many awkward silence moments. except our love is in basic terms too stable the place words are pointless.