2006-07-30 06:26:17 · 6 answers · asked by chess_on_demand 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO...Today U gotta Leave ur parents, Tomorrow U'll have 2 leave your children N ur wife...In short she'll leave U OLL...if you think you gonna make her happy and live with you happily ever after i should say U don't have brain up there...don't let her to let her xpectations too high or else get urself ready for the serious consequinces later on...if she loves U she has to understand you love your daddy mummy(if you do) and she must love them too. period
it's not the matter of you parents...it's about makin a very big decision like this..then in the very near future it would be ur wife to tell you wut to do or not to do Y??? becoz she's got used to be a first and last word provider and if she hears a NO she'll leave you any way
so think about it don't be so mean but talk to her
goodluck
2006-07-30 06:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by l0_o_some1else_o_0l 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused here. Is your girlfriend saying she'll marry you if you leave your parents, or that if you're ready to leave your parents then you're ready to marry her?
In olden days, children, especially girls, stayed with their parents until they got married. All girls were expected to marry and be homemakers; boys had few choices of career and usually did whatever their fathers did. Nowadays, there are more choices for men and for women, and therefore adulthood is more complicated. These days, leaving home and getting married are two separate issues.
Do you know Carly Simon's song, "That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be"? A grown woman who lives with her parents, not knowing what to do with herself, relents and gives in to her boyfriend's proposal of marriage, yet she laments, "I'll never learn to be just me first by myself." These days, when the possibilities of forming your own identity are far greater than before, it's important to find out who you are before you give yourself away to another in marriage.
I'm not saying you must live on your own before you marry, but that you might want to. In any case, you need to discover who you are as a man, what you believe in, what your career will be--and if you can hold down a job and support yourself or a family!
Don't let her pressure you into marriage (but don't try to "get the milk for free", either!). If you know who you are as a man and if you're sure you want her for life, and if she knows who she is as a woman and knows she wants you for life, then find that premarital counselor (whom I'd recommend for anyone contemplating marriage) and start planning your wedding and marriage.
2006-07-30 14:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....the girl who has not yet lived with ur parents haven't judged their attitude is asking u to leave them....and u r asking a suggestion.... how can u leave ur parents who did so much for u....i think many girls can come in life but none another pair of parents...... decision is urs... either tell her u will not leave ur parents for her or just follow her stupidity....
2006-07-30 14:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready to move out of your parents house and be a man then she is ready to marry you, thats only a choice for yo to make
2006-07-30 13:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has issues with the parents?
new place on your own?
either way, need to find out what is it that bothering her...
need to talk it through...
marriage is big and it does involve family in the long run...so might as well handle it sooner than later...
good luck :)
2006-07-30 13:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by ashchicka2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants you to be a grown up MAN about it, and start preparing your life TOGETHER
2006-07-30 13:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by bu77erfly0183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋