my brother is a BIG show off in front of other people. he acts as if he's tougher than me and smarter, and he's only 8, i'm 12. i don't do ANYTHING to him, and my mom doesn't do anything about it! his behiavior is really embarrassing. he always wants to go places i go to w/ my friends and he always gets his way and acts like a brat. what do i do? i cant live w/ this!!!
2006-07-30 06:12:58 · 25 answers · asked by whataprincess! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i really can't do anything to him, even talk to him because i've been putting up with this crap forever! he's just gonna think i woke up grumpy or something today! he's gonna be totally shocked and be thinking "what the hell is my sister telling me!??!?!??! yeah right, like i'm gonna listen to her"
2006-07-30 06:23:07 · update #1
welcome to the life of being an older sibling they are all like this and yes you can live with it. The best thing you can do is act as though you aren't embarrassed love on him as much as you can and eventually he'll realize he doesn't have to embarass you to get your attention.
2006-07-30 06:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One remedy to make someone listen to you or begin to "think" is - to ignore him completely. Just go about your own chores and school and studies and stop all communication with him for a while. You will begin to see some changes. He might ask you or behave differently in your presence just to get your attention and to even show you that he will be nice. Take a little more time and then tell him that if he wants you to give him your attention, then he must learn to behave and not do the things that he does to embarrass you. All siblings have this problem at one time or the other and it feels like the burden is too much to handle. Be sure, this is not a problem but something natural that happens when some kids dont have their own friends. It is apparent that your brother is an attention seeker and you must wait for some years until he grows up to see some change in him. Please tell your mom that you would like to go play with your friends alone sometimes and that she should keep him at home or take him out herself. She may not be saying anything to stop him from going out with you as it would give her some time to herself at home. But you are 12 and you need some time to spend with your friends too without family. But darling, dont shun your brother out of your life completely. He just adores you and wants you to adore him. He is seeking attention that's all, but does not know the better way to get it. Be kind to him also. Good luck.
2006-07-30 14:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don't know if I can help being a brat myself , lol
see I have often wondered why people think I'm spoiled though I think I'm just taking my RIGHTS as the youngest sister. what I want to tell you is that your brother may be acting like this because he sees nothing wrong with it. I'm sure your Mom has spoiled him and raised him to think of himself so highly. I say don't blame the kid cuz he is just the result of a certain way of raising.
I think you should talk to your mom and explain to her how your brother's behavior is affecting you. Your mom should know that before it's too late. There is a chance of correcting his behaviour because he is still a child but if ur mom won't do anything then he will probably turn out just like me... thinking he is the king of the world .
2006-07-30 13:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him when he's feeling calm... To an eight year old, your life, where you go, what you do and your friends are an adventure and very exciting for him - especially if he doesn't have a life of his own - like his own friends, places he can go on his own or interesting toys to play with or your parents are not involved enough with him or with getting him involved with other kids his age.... So, back to the talk with him....: Say to him: You know, Junior, I really love you and don't mind you being around sometimes - especially when you act more grown up (like more my age).. So, can you practice acting older - especially around my friends... Acting older means not jumping all around, being loud and silly but listening, talking, having an opinion, etc. In addition, ask your mother and father (if they are not) to spend more time with him and to get him involved in some activities with kids his own age - like at camp or a gym or some kind of a team sport, etc. Good Luck, dear.... I can understand why you would be pulling your hair out at this....!
2006-07-30 13:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by carol_grad@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have any of his own friends? He sounds like he is seriously acting out & seeking attention in a negative way. In the long run, you might just be doing him a favor by including him in on some time with you & your friends (maybe give him some ground rules at first). If he feels accepted, this may change his ourageous behavior. If not, and your mom won't help, you may have to resort to meeting behind his back.
Is there no one his own age you can introduce him to? This would take him off your hands.
2006-07-30 13:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical 8y/o boy brat behavior. Do you spend any time with him just the two of you. How close are you with him? It may be your bro wants your attention. Remember when you were 8 he was 4 and now he's catching up to you and wants to be apart of you. Your brother needs to have friends of his own to hang out with. Help him out. Tell him you'll take him out with a friend of his when he acts socially more accepatable in public.Like go to the mall with him and his friend and yours test it out. good luck
2006-07-30 13:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Ur mom Ur bro takes up space.u love him but Ur also about 2 b a teen u cant have a little brother around living Ur life have fun,party ignore him,tell somebody but don't give in 2 his silly little ways and show him who's boss Ur the big sister Ur way tougher than he is....believe me
2006-07-30 13:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! relax your bro is just 8, he is a kid and so are you, just try and forget it as one of those kiddish pranksand don't think too much about it.Of course you can make your stand clear by firmly speaking your thought b4 ur bro and family. But believe me that later in life you wud laugh at such things which appear too big at the moment
2006-07-30 13:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Vanchit S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to impress YOU! That's a form of hero worship. Try including him on some of the stuff you do without him having to whine about it to your mother first. Believe it or not, the memories you will make now will be some of the happiest of your life. Be a brother. Let him see that his love for you isn't misplaced.
2006-07-30 13:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brothers Suck. Im also 12 and I can relate. Just ignore him. or around his friends [if he has any, lol] just say stuff. Not Hurtful stuff but just stuff. be creative. let him know u r in charge and u r older. show em whos boss
2006-07-30 13:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by BrUnEtteBeAuTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋