Have been speaking to this guy I really like and have been careful not to call too often or come on too strong but sometimes I just feel so much affection that I am afraid it all shows...he doesnt seem to mind but I am scared that he might get turned off if there is no chase....
2006-07-30 06:03:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It wouldn't put me off and I'd be flattered if I knew the female didn't make a habit of 'falling for' other guys in the same way. Then I'd perhaps just take her as someone with affection to give and get anywhere and feel like noone special to her.
If he REALLY IS special then make a rule that you're unavailable for a day (Except in real & extreme emergency) and stick to it no matter what.
In the meantime, let him know you're interested, but try not to be too gushing and romantic YET. Put out feelers to find out if and how deep his feelings go. Steer the conversation round to serious relationships, perhaps by reference to film stars or famous people, that have gone wrong.
I'll be truthful with you and admit that his is how my present fiancee went about it with me. It took her 3 months to come out with her feelings and she might not have then, except that she suspected I might feel the same because of the time I was prepared to give her.
Some women have dived straight in with barely a moment't thought and had a similar degree of success - I married two. Other's have read me wrong and got disasterous results as I've seen them as casual relationships.
There's an argument for finding out sooner rather than later - at least your feelings shouldn't be so hurt.
If the guy really really likes you then the chances are he'll be flattered by your having such special feelings for him. Just don't launch into talk about living together prematurely.
Remember, your feelings are as important and as valid as his.
(Re. your overwhelming affection for him. If and when you both trust each other about your feelings, this'll soon be expressed as a two way street and you can start using pet names and talking affectionate goobledegook to each other then..Some guys never do, or it takes many years to realise it doesn't mean they're effeminate. You'll find out about this guy soon enough)
2006-07-30 06:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by stormsurfer_is_me 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-01 06:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember men are stupid when it comes to women, we also find it much more difficult to pick up on non verbal communication than women do.
If you try to hide your attraction to him you will more than likely succeed and he is then just as likely to look elsewhere as he is to see you as being a challenge.
Very few men would be put off if you came on to them, as long as you are not to heavy handed about it. It only inflates our own ego.
If you want to make a game of it and play a little cat and mouse, a little hint here and there, then fine, but always remember you can lose a game, particularly if the other person does not know you are playing.
2006-07-30 06:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by John H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO !!!!! Guys have feelings too ! Tell him Im sure it IS obvious through your actions, but guys want you to say it first . You can't help how you feel . There's a good chance he'll feel the same way . He could be doing the SAME THING !!! but a guy will never tell you first . Not unless you hold it in for months , then he might break down and tell you first.
2006-07-30 06:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just looking for the chase, the relationship will never work. Stop playing games & express yourself. How can you have a real relationship if you can't be honest & express your feelings without thought of rejection.
2006-07-30 06:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok to tell a guy you like him
just dont be too desperate
give him attention
showin you like him
but dont over do
in the end you might just end up askin him out
2006-07-30 06:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by tb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same kind of situation. play hard to get. works best. just dont seem like you're desperate.
2006-07-30 06:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by mysteirizx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably loving the attention so play him at his own game and ignore him if he really likes you he will come running .good luck.
2006-07-30 06:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Its better to punch him if you like him or cuss at him.
2006-07-30 06:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play hard to get
2006-07-30 06:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋