Ive been with him for 6 years but ..?

Question

There is a Question that has been bugging me. Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and sometimes it feels like time has taken it's toll on us. We've been up and downs and more downs. So my question is, is it normal for a couple to quarrel 4-5 days a week? Are there any couple around who've been through the same problem as me? Like aruging in an hour after meeting or arguing over something silly, that leads to an eruption of problems..and is it wise to continue ? Cos I still love him..but the quarrels are gettin outta hand.,

Oh..the quarrels started this bad only since last month when I found out about another girl in the picture..though i know nothing happened, I feel really betrayed but he told me, i pushed him too..i know he tried his best for the last 2 weeks but i might have found it hard to forget it..and so the quarrels..i find it hard to trust him again and he said he's gettin sick of justifying his every move..but what does he expect after meeting another girl n not telling me till i found out??!

Answer 1

Yea, and I married someone else.

Answer 2

My answer is run! If you have been with a guy for 6 year and you haven't gotten married then it meant the feelings aren't there. Arguing all the time is bad I have been in the same situation. I was with a guy for 4 years we argued all the time. It even got to the point eventually where things got thrown. I was not happy ever seemed like. But I felt compelled for some reason to stay but the longer I stayed the worse it got. Eventually he would come home Drunk or cheat on me. Not a good situation so I say get out while you still can. Before you get pregnant or something and your stuck and then you and the kid have to deal with the yelling and stuff.

Answer 3

Guys. Get an amicable split. Pronto.

You BOTH need the time apart and to grow up. Make it a point that if you ever meet up again, it will be at both your best behaviour and that you can vouch for each other that you both HAVE BETTER LONG TERM BEHAVIOUR. IF this plan doesnt work out, then you can thank your lucky stars as 1/ either one, or both, of you hasnt grown up and thus avoided a life of married/partnered misery together (not romantic like the movies, and who really needs this?), or, 2/ you both actually are NOT MEANT for each other.

Dare to find out and good luck !!

ps: Your "love" was meant to be the fuel you need to better the relationship. NOT the thing you base your relationship on. I love therefore I am in a (working) relationship. That's c r a p. I love, therefore I will try my best for a good working relationship. That's real. Now if only both of you cud do like this, you both wud be ok together. Not one, but both. And if you both "like" arguing. then go ahead anyways. Who else should care?

Answer 4

Every couple argues over silly things but 4-5 times a week is a bit much if the bad out weighs the bad then there is no reason to stay in the resationship.

Answer 5

If you stay with him, this is your future. Quarrel ling all the time. Some people love to quarrel and it actually binds their relationship, but having a relationship where quarrel ling is the not focal point is so romantic, wonderful and beautiful. Perhaps you have outgrown each other. Do not kid yourself you or he will change in the future, the pattern has been set, you are going to be quarrelers, that's it.

Answer 6

FOR STARTERS, IN SOME RELATIONSHIPS, DEPENDING ON THE COUPLE, THIS IS NORMAL BEHAVIOR. THIS IS THE WAY THAT THE COUPLE RELATES TO ONE ANOTHER. IN MOST CASES, IF THIS IS NOT THE WAY, THE ENTIRE SIX YEARS, HAS BEEN, THIS DEFINITELY IS NOT NORMAL. COUPLE THERAPY MAY BE A SOLUTION, BUT YOU TWO NEED TO GET TO THE ROOT, OF THE PROBLEM. IT MAY BE BOREDOM, OR TIME TO SEPARATE AND GO YOUR SEPARATE WAY. ONLY THE TWO OF YOU CAN DECIDE. COMMUNICATE. SIT DOWN AND HAVE A ONE ON ONE CONVERSATION. IN PERSON, SO THAT YOU CAN LOOK IN EACH OTHERS EYES. THE EYES ARE THE WINDOWS TO ONES SOUL. PRAY FOR GUIDANCE FIRST. THEN TALK TO ONE ANOTHER. GOD WILL HELP YOU TO FIND YOUR ANSWER. I JUST READ THE ADDITIONAL INFORMATION. IF ALL THE MAN DID WAS TO MEET ANOTHER WOMAN, AND HE IS NOT GETTING INVOLVED WITH HER, THERE SHOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM. I THINK THAT PERHAPS, DUE TO PRIOR SITUATIONS, YOU HAVE SOME TRUST ISSUES WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND. YOU DO NOT TRUST HIM. FOLLOW YOUR HEART. AFTER SEVEN YEARS, OF BEING WITH HIM, YOU HAVE REASON TO BELIEVE THAT HE IS UNFAITHFUL, LEAVE HIM. IF WE CONTINUE TO FORGIVE A MAN, FOR INFIDELITY, AFTER A WHILE HE FEELS THAT IT IS OKAY TO FOOL AROUND, BECAUSE HE KNOWS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO FORGIVE HIM, AND LET HIM CONTINUE WALKING OVER YOU, AND BEING DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE TREATED WITH DISRESPECT. YOU ARE A STAR, AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AS SUCH. GOOD LUCK MY DEAR...

Answer 7

My man and I have been together for 7 years and we have our arguments, but certainly not 4-5 times a week, for us it is more like once a month, usually about $, sometimes about his jelously, but if you are fighting that frequently and you still want to be with him, maybe you should seek some counsiling. Sometime a couples problem is simply not communicating effectivly. Be open with your feelings tell him what bothers you and how he can fix it and vice versa.

Answer 8

5 days

Answer 9

Sounds like basic respect is missing from your relationship. Counseling is in order, because this could continue over into a new relationship if you don't at least get some insight into it.

Joint counseling would be a great thing for you two. Pick someone who doesn't take sides.

Answer 10

we are in the exact same situation only my relationship has been seven years we have walked out on it so many times only to come back and it gets worse it like if were not fussing we are silent and we just need to ask ourselves what type of love is this devotion can only carry you so far figure out the problems sit down and decide if you can and are willing to fix them if not then its time to move on go through that episode of hurt and get on with your life I have made the decision that its time to go but he is still fighting to keep it I think that it is just that comfort zone that we dont want to walk out of and to have to get to know someone new and to learn their ways likes and dislikes all over again its scary but you can do it

Answer 11

6 years, ya'll have been fussing like that for 6 years?!, wow, thats not normal and the way u described it, thats just crazy, hmm, maybe ya'll 2 should go 2 cancelling and try 2 work it out, if he dont wanna go, just 4get about him, im sure ur pretty and u could do better, no offense