this guy asked me to dance over msn and the dance has not even came yet and he likes me but i dont want to dance with him but i dont want to hurt his feeling and say no cause i no he reallllllly likes me and i no if this was to happen to me that i would be upset but have to forgive the guy and i dont no if i should just say yes and then get questioned by other people and put up with it or just forget about him?
2006-07-30 05:57:59 · 8 answers · asked by Cutie101 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THE best approach is to say no, but do it NICELY.
Be polite, respectful, but direct and to the point. Be kind to him and say that you are flattered that he wants to dance with you but you'd prefer not to.
And then leave it at that.
Yes he will be disappointed, as would any of us if we found the courage to ask someone we liked to do something and they said no.
The difference is, if you allow him to keep his dignity by being nice, sparing his feelings, and being respectful to him, then he will be able to accept that. He will, or should, leave things alone then, be disappointed, but think you're a nice person as well.
People don't realize that this whole 'not wanting to hurt someone' thing ends up hurting more my not being up front, and then when things get to the point they end up being nasty, and that hurts worse than if they would have been up front, calm, and polite and just said, 'thank you, but no thank you'.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 06:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by gipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say No thank you, I'm waiting for someone.
2006-07-30 06:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it.
2006-07-30 06:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wanting to dance doesnt mean he likes you.
2006-07-30 06:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u donot wanna that
2006-07-30 06:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by wael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat im a lesbo
2006-07-30 06:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Andy29Pandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say no thanks and stop stressing about it. maybe he will be relieved that he can stop stressing too.
2006-07-30 06:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋