My little brother is pissing me off... I think im going to hurt him, What should i do?

Question

About every day and weekend when my parents have to go out, i have to watch him and make sure he eats and bathes and do his homework.
Im no way jealous of him but i think he is really spoiled. Im about 6 years older than him 18 and he is 12. I dont even have much of a life becasue of him all i do is school, work then, home. when my parents come home from work, they would be so angry with me if there was a slight mess that he made. Im tired of constantly having to watch him every three seconds to see if he is not making a mess. im tired of him demanding me to feed him. He is freaking 12! im sure he can put some food in the microwave, and im sure he can clean up after himself with whatever he does! i try to teach him to do things for himself but all he does is get fustrated and cry. i try to talk to my parnents about him but they dont even take me serously. when i was 8 i was pretty much independant and my parents never had to say a word. Can somene give me some advice before i go nuts?

oh gosh i may be 18 but i cant just up and move out. im busy still trying to get my life situated.
this isnt the old days where when you turn 18, you could just get up and leave and expect to be OK
now days its a bit tough to move out i already tried that and it didnt work out for long

Answer 1

MY SONS ARE 6 YEARS APART. YOU WILL BECOME CLOSER AS YOU GET OLDER. BE PATIENT AND DEAL WITH IT. IT WON'T BE LIKE THIS FOREVER.

Answer 2

Go outside and count to 100 every time you start to get upset....either that, or listen to some music. Your parents may not be listening to you due to your approach. Sit them down and say "Listen, he is 12 now and needs to start taking some responsibility for himself. I have tried to teach him things, and he gets upset. Just so you know, when he does this, I will no longer help him. He has to start learning, and honestly, this is your job to teach him, not mine. I feel frustrated and taken advantage of when you leave him as my sole responsibility because as an 18 year old I need to start getting on with my life. I would appreciate it if you would make him more responsible for himself." I agree with you...when I was 12 I was doing everything for myself, and he should at least be trying. If all else fails, get a good job and move out if possible, or go away to school. They will get the hint then. Good luck!

Answer 3

Been there done that, with 3 of them, including one 6 years younger. Study during the time you out to be baby sitting so you can go to a good college. Your parent(s) appreciate the help. Your little brother worships you.
You'll probably spend many years looking out for the kid and be one of the biggest influences in his life.
Obviously you are very responsible and well raised.

If the kid is really pesky (been there and done that) be creative in dealing with them but do NOT hurt them. Consider this a challenge you may face in the working world. You will definitely see a lot of "younger brother" types who are completely helpless... if you allow them to be.

Also remember that people mature at different ages, the kid may be able to stick a plate in the microwave, but if he leaves the fork on the plate and sets the whole house on fire..... NOT worth it.

Answer 4

Your 18 you can move up, but remember you will be responsible for rent, food, bills and so on.

I'm willing to bet you don't pay room and board, so watching your kid brother, is your way of paying you due's at home. I have three younger siblings and have watched them all.

Answer 5

Well, you said you're 18 - you're at a legal age to move out of the house, so therefore you can do so.

I would recomend talking to your parents, but whatever you do, don't use the words, 'It's NOT fair.' Parents will automaticly tune you out when you use those words.

If things get worse, just move out and eventually your parents will see where they went wrong.

Answer 6

Teach him, whatever he asks you to do, push it back on him. If he doesn't do it, it won't get done. If he asks you to microwave something, ask him to do it himself and if he doesn't, he's got no food. You think your parents will blame you for that? Another thing, keep him out of the house, play basketball, whatever....

Answer 7

if i was you i would tell my parents say " hey if you want me to keep watching him then you need to either start to pay me for watchin him or im goin to move out. try to bribe your little brother into doing things. before you know it he will get out of his moment. my brother is older than me and growing up he had this thing on hitting me in the same arm. well when i turned 17 i told my mom i wasnt going to take it any more and if she didnt go down there and talk to him about it i was going to take it into my own hands. told her if he hit me one more time i was going to have his butt thrown if jail. wouldnt ya know it the next day he decided to do what he wanted and he got a free pass to jail. i almost got kicked out and almost lost my car. my mom even told me that he was his spoiled brat. so i know how it feels dude. stand up to them dont give in and if they dont want to here what you have to say then prove to them what you mean. go buy a video camera and hid it somewhere so that you are the only one who knows a record his actions. usually when someone see's eye to eye then there tune changes

Answer 8

I feel your pain. I have a nephew just like that. Hang in there. When you feel like your gonna hurt him, go chill out and listen to some music or something, take a walk, or go hang with some friends.

Answer 9

Been there done that just get out of the house or shut ur door lock it and turn up ur music if u have sime?

Answer 10

supply him it slow, and supply your self it slow. Take him aside and as frivolously as you may, tell him "hear, this truly upsets me, and that i in my view do no longer want to harm you, yet each and every time you do it, i'm getting closer to hurting you, Please quit on your sake." possibly additionally take it up with your mothers and dads? Self administration is hard, although that's attainable. attempt to be the mature one in this occasion. This got here approximately with my sister, we was truly large friends. yet by surprise we hated one yet another, and we continuously fought and harm one yet another. She became the only that became mature (after 2 years) and backed off, and now we get alongside back. It takes perseverity, yet you're able to do it. Boys tend to objective to annoy their siblings, yet once you do no longer respond the way he needs to, ultimately he will quit. additionally forgive, once you get mad, it may no longer additionally be in basic terms through fact of that one reason. many times that's appropriate with previous memorys that still disenchanted you. Forgiveness works wonders, truly it does.

Answer 11

your 18 years old.. move out