2006-07-30 05:52:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not all in laws are mean. I don't know how long you have been married. But it takes time to get to know some people, don't be to quick to judge. I bet later down the road. you and the in laws will be a happy family. This is coming from experience, it takes time.
If it doesn't work, then you'll know you gave it your best shot. try talking and sharing your feeling. What harm can come from that.
Something else when a couple gets married, it is hard for the in laws to get close. why? because with the divorce rate so high these days. maybe they are afaid to get to love you. but in time thing might improve. just think about . My best wishes are for you. goog luck.
2006-07-30 06:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , In Laws are just normal people. Its just that every family has a differnet life style and the new members sometimes feel uncomfortable in the new atmosphere .
Clash of view points happen because both sides are right from their point of view : the new member is reluctant to give up the old lifestyle while the In Laws see it as an act of defiance..
Remember the first few months are like dealing with the Russians : You want to have your way but you dont want to risk war.
Tread carefully and things should look fine in a few months
2006-07-30 06:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much you are the outsider to them. They don't know you well or not at all. So they rather keep their distance. Now as for mothers-in-law, they just don't like the fact they aren't the most important woman in their sons lives anymore. Some momz go so far as trying to break up the marriage just to win her son back and have him glued to her apron strings. But I say prove to her and everyone else in the family that you can be the best woman for their son, nephew, brother, cousin. Cuz once you have them seeing how great and loving you are, they should fall in love with ya.
2006-07-30 05:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My inlaws were mean to me because I did not kiss there butts and I let them know that I was not going to either. But I think its because they want to be in control of there child and you done took the place, thats was my personal exp... but that's the way things go sometimes GOOD LUCK
2006-07-30 05:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by msmelissahernandez28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's probably like the people said. In the eyes of your mother-in-law, you're taking her place in the life of her son. You're some kind of insideous invader trying to steal her son from her, and poisoning his mind against her.
Your best bet is to make friends with her and understand her so she understands that you are no threat to her relationship with her son.
It might not be that, of course. I mean, you haven't really given us much information. It could be because you ran over your mother-in-law's cat and then forced her to watch while you ate it. Unlikely, I know, but you can never be certain with people on the internet.
2006-07-30 05:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Foxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they mean to be mean, but they often have an unrealistic picture of their darling child and you represent taking that child away from them, unless you totally integrate yourself in to their family and forget yours along the way. I think often in-laws hold up their children's spouses to unrealistic expectations that we can't ever hope to meet. It all sets the stage for the need for adjustment and acceptance which takes time. All you can ask for is your spouse to be supportive and stand with you, then the parents will begin to understand they have to reframe how they deal with you and their child as you all are adults now.
2006-07-30 06:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do u mean when u say inlaws are mean
U are going to be an mother in law sometime too.
Besides if they are your in laws, you are automatically an out law
and out laws are frowned upon
so if they are mean, they are right
and if u mean they are wrong , you are right.
2006-07-30 06:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mean in-law but my mother-n-law was mean to me. i guess i always knew one day i would have to let my child go to pursue life with someone. a parent can not give their child the kind of companionship an individual needs in this life. some parents especially women don't want to let go and ruin their child's chance for a good, compassionate and peaceful relationship. the one thing that i see that can make this work for you, is to make sure your husband/wife, life partner etc., lets his or her parents know that you are the chosen one and that this is the ways its! the way it's going to be! respect or else! don't get it TWISTED! this is what makes it happen for me! this is what i want! love him or her! or stay the hell out of our life. this is what happen for me and it worked. good luck.
2006-07-30 06:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds choose to me, as appropriate i will inform with the undesirable punctuations and so on... that she resents your marriage to her son. She unearths something in you that irritates her. i ought to represent that your husband enable's her recognize that he's married to you, and that your feeling's are being damage, and to renounce this. She can't proceed to berate you. If this keeps, you need to choose to verify even if that is conceivable to discover an area of your own.
2016-11-26 23:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by gipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't all mean. Maybe the mother-in-law is jealous that the wife has taken her baby son away from her. Only answer I can come up with.
2006-07-30 05:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋