my sister threw me a bridal shower (nothing big, all the guest had to pay for their own dinners). My friends have been bugging me about a bachelorette party, and I asked my mom if my sister was having one (she had mentioned it before) and my mom said i had a bridal shower because no one planned on giving me a bachelorette party? Do most people only have one?
2006-07-30 05:22:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, you should have both events! If your sister isn't planning a Bachelorette party, then get some of those friends who have been asking you about it together and do something with them. Explain to them that your sister is not throwing you one. I am sure they will take you out!
2006-07-30 05:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by TP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that traditionally, the shower is a chance for your family and friends to celebrate your wedding and the bachelorette party is your last night on the town as a wild, single lady. If you want to have a bachelorette party, you should mention it to your sister or maid of honor (maybe they're one in the same). It would be for friends that you are comfortable with, as opposed to every aunt or cousin coming to the wedding. My maid of honor threw me a "Breakfast at Tiffany's" bridal shower, and instead of two separate parties, my fiance and I decided to join up for a bachelor/bachelorette party. The wedding parties (and we) pitched in for a double decker tour bus and went bar hopping all over the city. We had a special guest list that was whittled down from the wedding list. If your family feels that you only have one or the other, enlist one of your friends who really wants to the do that bachlorette thing to plan something- it can be huge or casual. I think that it's really up to you and what you'd like to do- I'm three weeks out from our wedding and have to be reminded- "You're the bride"!
2006-07-30 13:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridal shower and bachelorette party are two separate events. The bridal shower is typically at someone's house where cake is served and you open presents. I am not understanding the meal that the guests had to pay for. The bachelorette party can be at someone's house or you could do it at a club. Typically no cake or gifts are involved at the BP. Good luck.
2006-07-30 12:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two parties. My mother threw my Bridal Shower. My maid of honor threw my bachelorete party. Mainly the bachelorette party is a big party for you and your girlfriends to go out and have one last hoorah. I know that I had a stripper and my friends got me drunk. My cousin had one of those pleasure parties for her bachelorette. If your friends are asking about it ask one of your closest friends to be in charge of planning it. Sometimes you do presents but most of the time you just party and remininsce on your old single days.
2006-07-30 13:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by h05ellasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people usually have one....i really don't think having a stripper dance all over you is very moral if your that kind of girl who has special feelings about your husband.....then you should just be happy with the bridal shower
2006-07-30 14:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure but why not have both bridal showers are for everyone coming moms aunts grandmothers. and bachelorette parties are for just you and the girls. HAVE FUN dont do anything i wouldn't do.
2006-07-30 12:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pretty much optionall.you dont have to have one if you dont want to.my bridal shower was last week and i accidently got wind that my maid of honor was throwing me a suprise bachelorette the night before the wedding.so even if she didnt it wouldnt of really mattered to me.its about what YOU want.it was hard for me to understand that at 1st but now that my wedding is in 3weeks,im understanding it more and more.good luck and HAVE FUN
2006-07-30 14:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.dynomite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only had one, the wedding was so expensive that we couldnt afford to do too much but the most important thing is having people you love around you, its always important to have someone that will make you laugh too
2006-07-30 14:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋