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Question

alrite. my friend now obviously likes my ex. we've sorta talked about it, i sorta tried to convince her that she'd be wasting her time. and u no the "unwritten rule" ... yea. i mean, if she does go out with him. shouldnt it be on her conscience? she sez her intentions are to help him get over me, and that she likes him also. but we all no that ppl have different intentions.. and i dont want to stop her, i want her to stop herself. b/c i think who am i to tell her who she can go out with and who she can't? its only been about a month since the break up.. so isnt that a little rushed. and.. she told one of my best friends that she acknowledges that it makes me uncomfortable. so why did she hintingly ask him out 2 times behind my back?

[i no i asked this question already. i just... need a lot of opinions]

Answer 1

If you've already asked this question - and have gotten lots of answers - and you truly only need 'lots' more opinions - then, here's one (mine) to add to your growing stack of others' input---

You know already what the GOOD and BAD answers are,
FOR yourself - WITHIN yourself. . .
reading more of what OTHER people think and feel about YOUR situation, only keeps this difficult and hurtful issue alive in your heart and soul - - -
because, for some yet undefined reason (only you can know), you NEED to keep this hurtful, confusing thing happening in your daily energy field, so - asking strangers (at Yahoo) is your way of doing this. . .

You shall figure this all out, and life will go on, as the sun comes up and goes down, each day, for all of us -

Life is for learning - and we learn best when things challenge our emotions ---

for you, just now, this is a lesson in choosing or rejecting friends, and then moving on to something different.

I wish you a speedy recovery from your 'loss', and an easier time of making choices that serve you well - now and in the future. . .

Answer 2

well to me shes not ur friend.one a friend wouldnt do that to u and get with an ex.now if u did break up and had feelings before u guys got together then she should come to u and tell u that.still she didnt that asked him out 2 times and its just been a month.so she not ur friend girl thats just wrong.u need to listen to me if she goes along with this u need to say goodby to hear. i mean that may sound messed but hello she got with ur ex.she the one that made that choice.u dont need a wannabe friend u need true friends.she asked him out that right there is grounds for no more friendship.so yeah she dumb and going to lose a friend in process so hope hes worth it.so call her tell her ur not my friend do whatever u want.then when it goes all sour she will try to come back and u say no ok.she needs to learn that choices she make will affect her life.so who are u to tell her she cant.ur the ex and u have that right but let her go and do whatever cuz u know a friend would not do that 2 u.so dont brush it off u need to deal with this now.forget all the other advice u got.this is the only advice u need.so get rid of the her she not ur friend and u dont need backstabbers.i am right and u know it so go ahead and do it.good luck

Answer 3

You should just forget both of them and move on. First of all you know how hormones are is a girl wants to be with someone then it doesn't matter what others say they will still go out with them. But on the other hand your right that is messed up to take a guy over a friend and that is what she is doing. Lets face it guys come and go and true girl friends are hard to come by. So if you meant enough to her she would leave him alone and stay by your side. So I would just say they heck with both of them.

Answer 4

Well if he is your ex, then he is your ex for a reason...

On the other hand, she is your friend and she should know that he is off-limits.

I say, let her date him. Maybe it will be true love and it was worth it, or maybe she will find out why he is your ex and she will feel silly for making a fool of herself. Either way, you cannot control what is no longer yours. If it is true friendship, it will last no matter what. I suggest you move on.

Answer 5

I think your friend is not really a friend. I see this type of stuff, and it sort of makes me ill. She obviously thinks of herself more than her friends... so she's not really a friend. Go find other REAL friends. You don't need self-centered b***hes like her in your life. She doesn't treasure your friendship enough to be more disciplined... instead, making up crap excuses to do what she does so she can get what SHE wants... irregardless of how it affects her "friends". Dump the friend.

Answer 6

I think your friend has liked him for a while and just wants to be with him not to help him get over you. Shes lieing to you. I've been through the same thing. the friend who did that to me......Lets just say we were best friends and we havn't talked in over 4 years because of what she did.

Answer 7

what a f****** b****. shes not your friend, shes a self-serving b**** who probably liked your bfriend the whole time along, even when u were w/ him & cant wait to get her hands on sloppy seconds. shes pathetic & so desperate to land him that she cant see past her wants to be considerate to you. let the b**** have what she wants- and you know what? mess around w/ him after they've been 2gether for a few weeks & let her find out. Id keep that girl at "arms length"

Answer 8

she isn't your true friend. get rid of her, she is lying to you and behind your back she is lying about you. She wants your x, I'm sorry but i would never mess with my best friends x, no matter how attracted to him i may be. every thing that you have said about this friend shows that she isn't a friend at all. I'm sorry.....you want her to make the right decision on her own, but she doesn't care about what the right thing is and she don't care about you.

Answer 9

Sounds like she's just hot for him. and in that case, nothing you can do will stop her from getting what she wants.

You can at least rest assured that she'll end up paying a price for what she wants, and you can smugly wait for her to fall on her face.

If you want to stay friends with her, just give her your permission. While its mildly disrespectful to you, it is your EX, let him go. And then go date one of her ex boyfriends.

Answer 10

if she goes out with your ex for the wrong intentions and that she doesn't see that it's bothering you, then obviously she's not a friend. a friend wouldn't stab another friend in the back. you should leave her be and find another friend. I'm sure till she breaks up with him she'll come crowling back and beg you to forgive her.