She said we needed space after she broke everything off our engagement...However, she called me 4 times since she broke it off, last Sunday, and yesterday morning she called to see what I was doing and acted surprised that I was actually going out of town for the day...When I returned home, she had called me again knowing I was gone...And she wanted to hang out today and take our dog, which we picked out together, for a walk and spend time with him...I don't get it...
2006-07-30 04:39:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe she's not ready to get engaged/married although she loves you a lot. She just wants life with you to be back as before... give her some time if you really love her. Some people are just too afraid to be engaged.
2006-07-30 04:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the typical behavior of anyone who breaks up with someone. They want you to sit and home and be heartbroken and lonely instead of going on with your life. Who knows why people are like this, but they are.
She asked for space and broke off the engagement for a reason. Find out why she broke it off and continue to give her space. Otherwise, she will turn into one of those women who want you there, then push you away again. She needs to get her head straight before you allow her back into your life.
2006-07-30 11:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to continue a relationship with this woman? If not inform her it was her decision to have space and break it off. It is never good to remain in situations where instead of working out your problems together, one of you has to be along. It takes two to have and work in a relationship. Obviously there is no commitment or trust. Tell her to grow up and go away to her space.
2006-07-30 11:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Plumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is wanting to play make up. She realized that she wants to be with you. You should tell her that you don't think it is a good idea for her to be calling so much and that she is the one that asked for space so she needs to use it. This will give her time to figure out what she wants and she is going to worry about why your change in attitude, making her realize that if she wants to be with you she better put her claim on you and leave it there. On and off again isn't going play.
2006-07-30 11:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being selfish unfortunately-think of her patterns with you-it not about you it's about her feeding her own ego and playing with your heart-the human heart will always be self servicing depeding on the individual. She realizes that it is slim pickings out there in the real world, and she knows what you are about. Think about it-if she really wanted to be with you-would she of broken off your engagement>>>>really think about it...you will see there will be someone better out there for you..life is to short for individuals messing with your head..move forward and the light will show you the way.
2006-07-30 11:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by LE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! You don't say anything about the feelings you still have for her! Do you still love her or have you moved on? Either way you should talk to her about the situation. Ask her what is going on and what she wants from you! If you don't have feelings for her anymore then tell her that also! She told you when she needed "space"....now it's your turn!
2006-07-30 11:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by silverangel1973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion,there could be 2 reasons for this.either she got cold feet but loves you alot and just doesnt know how to express it OR she's playing games.she doesnt REALLY want that kind of commitment but is scared you'll find someone else.you guys need to REALLY sit down and talk or seperate your self from her for awhile.let her sweat it out and see what life is like without you,then she'll have no choice but to face the truth.whatever tha may be.good luck
2006-07-30 15:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.dynomite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is a very selfish woman. She asked for break up and she wants to know if you are "suffering" without her. But when she called and heard that you are going on fine without her, she gets worried and hence want to cling on to you. She is not ready to commit to you, yet she aint willing to let go till she has found someone.
2006-07-30 11:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful. my boyfriend of 8 yrs broke up with me 3 times. he would call me after so many days/weeks...etc. the final time....he wasn't calling me exactly....but he was calling my house (caller id) and keeping tabs on me. found out he actually had someone else---but just wasn't quite sure about her. he eventually married her. now, that i am married---i know never to be someones second thought. always be first. when you truly love someone, and care about someone...you don't do that crap to them.
2006-07-30 13:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to want her back, Dude! I wouldn't trust this woman. Just tell her to stop calling and that you're not interested in renewing your relationship. Let her have the dog.
2006-07-30 11:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋