When my husband brings his kids home this summer (their first visit to our home since our marriage)...how do we make them see that our rules and consequences will differ from thier mom's without sitting them down to a big lecture?
2006-07-30 04:18:33 · 9 answers · asked by Charon 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell them over breakfast at a restaurant. It's a neutral place and make it a casual conversation!
2006-07-30 04:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could talk with them without it seeming like a lecture. Just give a general overview of how you run your home. If they do something that you do not approve of, let them know that it is unacceptable and then if it continues there has to be consequence. You and your husband should decide before hand what those consequences will be.
2006-07-30 11:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by reneelost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no you dont!!!!!!!!!
You better have the lecture ready.....You dont have to make a real big deal about it...but its very important that you both outline a list of behavior that you BOTH will not accept.
You set them down on a couch the very first day....after they have something to eat. and You and your Husband take turns outlining what you expect from them. That way...there wont be any of that...."She is being mean to me!! Crap!!
They will purposefully try to see just how far they can push you....I had one little monster go outside....rub his shoes in mud...come back in...rubbed them on my 3000 dollar futon....and laugh!! He finally got dinner the next night...after he spent all day and the next morning cleaning the mattress. His mom wouldnt even talk to him until it was done. Never had a lick of trouble from him since.
2006-07-30 11:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old they are but I think the best way is to have a talk at the very beginning and let them know the ground rules. You don't have to be harsh just let them know you want them to have a good time and its easier for all if they know what you expect of them by way of their behaviour. It s also a good time to ask what they like, what they don't like, is there anything they want to do whilst with you etc. It can be an open and inviting discussion depending on the way you handle it.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 11:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Angie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said they are 8, 12 and 15? They are old enough to know how to listen, and should respect your rules. Just sit them down and have a talk about your expectations. And if they don't follow, remind them whose house they are at and the rules that are involved.
2006-07-30 11:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Heather S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them straight that this is how things work in Dad's house. Dad and mom are different people and they have different rules in their houses. Just like their friends may have different rules or the rules at school are different than they are at home.
2006-07-30 11:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them straight. They are in a different home so they must respect that. Like you said, our house, our rules & if your husbands sticks by that then it will make it easier on you.
2006-07-30 11:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put up posters that are colorful with the rules, or sing it in a song, or take them out for dinner and tell them the rules, when they break one discourage it.
2006-07-30 11:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥emo fairy♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be wicked step mom.
2006-07-30 11:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋