we are both 19. my girlfriend and i have been apart for the summer because she worked at a summer camp for 2 months. we got to talk once a week because she could only get service when she went to town.
we were very serious before camp started, and now once camp is over and we can actually talk...its hard to hold a conversation.
yesterday was our 6 month dating and she told me she needed space and that she had alot on her mind.
i think she has feelings for another guy at that was at the camp...they dated last summer and now he is going to attend the same college as me and my girlfriend.
but this is only a guess
so what should i do? it feels kinda crappy when on ur 6 month all ur girlfriend says is that she needs space. how much should i give her? should i causually go out with other girls to let get her jealous and let her know im not going to be just an option?
this girl really means alot to me and it would suck to lose her
thanks for the help
2006-07-30 04:13:47 · 17 answers · asked by specialxknc22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHE NEEDS MORE SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND HER IS WHAT SHE MENT TO SAY!! Time to start looking for a new girl...one that can stay more focused and have a little more respect for you than she did.
2006-07-30 04:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by M&T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aloha little brother!
Sounds like your a guy with some heart. Romantic at heart. Me too! Don't lose it!
Check this out and know you are getting some good advice.
I'm 32 years old. Might sound old to you but trust me it's not.
I think women are the greatest gift on the planet.
I've had a lot of fun, traveled and lived many different places. Seen and experienced many different females.
Here's what you do. Read the writing on the wall. She's been gone for 2 months and still wants space. Move on. It's good to be passionate and caring but take care of yourself. Believe in yourself. Remain confident and realize you are a young man and there are many more adventures ahead. Girls don't respond to a clingy guy. Especially at your age. You can pretty much count on the fact that there is someone else that has caught her. For instance LIFE.
Stay cool. It's ok to have emotions feel longing and dissapointment.
The key is to stay respectful. Don't fall into the trap of arguement.
Other ladies are watching how you carry yourself.
You don't have to pretend it doesn't matter to you or play it like she's the problem. The thing ladies respond to is self confidence and none of them want to hear about the drama. You'll just become a friend. Talk to some older guys. Preferably family or those around you that care about you and believe in you. Be the better man and always upgrade. If you play the victim and are dramatic you look like a chump. If others you know try to egg you on just say you wish her the best and be mature about it. Ladies (and trust me there are so many different ones) all respond to self confidence and are watching you right now. I can dig that you are a romantic and it seems like everything but just like anything, sports, work, music, whatever it is we all need some practice to play our best.
I left home at seventeen and trust me there is so much more ahead for you. Think before you speak and always play it kind.
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Good luck little bro.
Always treat em right but don't be afraid to make the move!
2006-07-30 04:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by mauitrb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I can totally understand why you feel the way you do. I do not think it will be wise to go out with other girls just to make your girlfriend jealous. Trust me that will only make you feel more frustrated especially if she acts as though she does not care. I think you should become clear on what "space" means. Does that mean you guys are broken up? I know you want to be nice to her but the fact is she is putting you in an awkward situation. You are her boyfriend yet you are not because she wants space. That is not fair to you! She needs to decide if she wants to be with you or not. If the answer is no then move on. You are about to go to college you will meet lots of girls; she is not the only girl in the world! Make her decide what she wants to do. Sometimes a break up can be the best thing. My bf broke up with me and I was very hurt but 2 months later I have realized it was the best thing for both of us. She needs to tell you what she wants. You do not have time to waste waiting on her! You can do better!
2006-07-30 04:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices:
a) accept it's over
b) fight for the relationship
If she says she wants space, it usually means there is someone else. The only way to change that is to wine, dine, gift, smooth talk and suck up to the girl, which is an expensive and often unsuccessful exercise.
You have to play it so she doesn't see it. Agree to the space, wait a bit, then invite her to an expensive dinner. Never act desperate, never try for sex. She has to want you again or it's all for nought.
GL
2006-07-30 04:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think she liked someone at camp, she might break up but what im telling you is just a possiblity and since now yOU guys are GETTING distant but mabe anymore space 4 u might not be good but you seem like a sweet guy to care for her im really sure you willl meet someone else wayyyyy bettter than her and who loves you 4 u
2006-07-30 04:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants 'space', eh? attach her onto an missle and blast her off!
serioulsy, it sounds that she has already left you emotionally or is testing the waters to see if something else may work out for her. let her go. . .time will heal and this too, shall pass. a few years from now you will be able to look back and think about her with a smile instead of a tear! good luck!
2006-07-30 04:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 18:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ACTUALLY WHEN SOMEONES SAYS THEY NEED SPACE ITS CUZ EITHER THEY'VE MET SOMEONE ELSE OR THEY DONT WANT TO BE WITH YOU ITS JUST AND EASIER AND NICER WAY OF SAYING IT BUT IF YOU REALLY LIKE HER GIVE HER SOME SPACE AND THEN SPEAK TO HER BUT DONT GET YOUR HOPES UP I WOULD TELL YOU TO MOVE ON WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHOS NOT SURE IF THEY WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND EVERY TIME YOU ARE APART SHES MIGHT COME AT YOU WITH I NEED SOME TIME
2006-07-30 04:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs her space so she can focus on her new boyfriend that she met in camp.
2006-07-30 04:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me someone else got past the used part.
2006-07-30 04:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋