I am 29. I have been dating one man for about 6 weeks and we have been having amazing sex (the best I have ever had actually). Well last night I went out with a new man and we really hit it off. We only kissed but I could tell that after some time dating that we would end up in bed if I let it go there.
What is okay to do here? Can I have two lovers as long as they know that I am seeing them both? Should I just stick with one man? If so, how in the world do I explain to the new guy that I can't have sex with him b/c I am already having sex with someone else? lol
I am just looking for some insight and opinion here. All answers will be helpful in some manner I am sure.
Thanks ahead of time for your time.
2006-07-30 04:10:24 · 26 answers · asked by katameeli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
every time you have sex with someone , you give a piece of yourself away, pretty soon , you won't have an identity or be a person who knows who they are or what they stand for. you will lose who you think you are. so be careful with whom you give yourself to. if you ever want to get married especially. guys don't like someone everyone has had a piece of, you are nothing special to him. everyone has shared what is most sacred to you.
2006-07-31 05:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the two men are fine with it, then you r really lucky - That's my stand if you are just dating.
However, do make sure that you can accept it in the same attitude if either one of them does the same to you. Otherwise, there's no one you can blame except yourself.
And there's no need for explanation to the new guy, because if he's out for sex, he wouldn't care if you are seeing anyone else!
2006-07-30 04:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by winnie_1423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definately can have more than one as long as neither have any belief that they have an exclusive relationship with you.
I wouldn't tell one about the other at all, but make sure the point is made taht you are dating and not exclusive to anyone, when you are ready to settle down to a real relationship then you will have to choose one, loose the rest and be exclusive at that time.
it is not hard to do, just draw out the lines.
2006-07-30 04:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not advise you to have more than one lover. That issue would most likely lead into an argument next time between you and them. No one likes to share their own girlfriend with others. You would have trouble if you end up loving both of them, for instance, which one would you marry to?
2006-07-30 04:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are all adults and as such you can make this decision based on your own morals. I think that if all parties involved know about each other and they are alright with it, then go ahead. Each man should also have the option of having another women as well. Can you deal with that? In essence you will each be sleeping with several people....
2006-07-30 04:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't fair to the guy that you have been with for 6 weeks and if you are going to tell the other guy that you can't have sex with him then just say it don't waste both of your time by waiting.
2006-07-30 04:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have two lovers because then if both of them find out they would probably be pissed and then you would end up with neither of them. I would say stick with one man and tell the new guy that you don't think things will work out between you two
2006-07-30 04:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to one man. You are bordering on promiscuity and could lose both.
(And I know that you'll probably get someone saying that you should set up a three-way, but I would urge against that as well)
2006-07-30 04:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are just the typical everday trifling, selfish American female who is totally incapable of loving and respecting anyone other than yourself. I am sure in the end you will get what you deserve. As the saying goes, "You reap what you sow." Peace.
2006-07-30 04:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of them know that your banging them it shouldn't be a problem but guys have a tendency to be possesive so it may not work. But you never know one of them or both for that matter might like to have a friend with benefits and don't care what you do with other guys as long as your disease free
2006-07-30 04:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋