what do you think girls are your mom really protective about you.mine is not very protective about me..for example if you are standing with your mom at any place if there are boys around you,she just walked away without saying a single word like come here or anything else.plz HELP "how to tell my mom" that it's my teenage, i am protective about myself i am a modern girl but still i need her protection towards me .GIRLS plzzz help ME OUT.
2006-07-30 03:31:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is not only at that place there are really many other cases.frankly speaking we don't have a friendly relation i can't talk to her.
2006-07-30 03:41:15 · update #1
Open up to your Mom. You should ideally be able to talk
with her about anything. She may not realize what she's
doing. You might have a catch word that signals that she
needs to stay close by. Tell her that if you say, "Mom, do you have a mint?" That means that she needs to be more
watchful and protective. You shouldn't have to be afraid.
Mom!!! Wake up. Tell her that she's your only mother and if
you can't talk to her about this-- who can you talk to? If you
are too shy to break the ice, tell your Aunt how you feel-
or another relative- or write her a note- anything so that you
can be heard.
Print this out and leave it where she can read it. Good luck
to you. I have a daughter myself and I would want her to come
to me with a problem like this. Even if it embarrassed me.
Good luck, Sweetie.
2006-07-30 03:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I never had a good relationship when I was a teen. I sort of felt the same way. It's kinda intimidating to talk to your mother about how she needs to be a better mother- been there. What helped me was to wright a letter and give it to her before she goes to work, or when you know you won't be around her for a little while.... so she can have a little time to think about it. If you're still antsy about it, put it in her purse or somethin. Always helped me open the lines of communication between me and my mother.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-30 04:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you stated your needs very well. Try having a daughter/mom talk with her. I hope that my daughter will come to me and tell me when she has feelings that I need to know about. Maybe your mom thinks you are more independent than you really feel. Maybe she's trying to give you "space". But you still need her guiding hand and reassurance - and protection. It's a wild world out there. Let your mom know that you really need her in your life to help you out and to watch over you. I believe she will really appreciate that you shared your feelings with her. Best Wishes!
2006-07-30 03:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by alisa2kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up that sometimes you'd like her help in situations like that. I'm guessing she's trying to give you your space so she doesn't seem like a nerdy, overprotective mom and she has no idea she's leaving you high and dry. You could develop a code phrase that sounds cool, and depending on your response, she'd know to come get you or relax and let you handle things. That way, you'd both have your independence *and* still have a protective link. Best wishes!
2006-07-30 03:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by lotsayorks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom while you appreciate her trust in you, that you are new to navigating this co-educational existence and would like her to help from time to time. For all you know while she is walking away from you, she is watching you and ready to intervene if she feels you are unable to handle the situation.
To help my children be more comfortable in public and around strangers, I had a code word with my children when they were small and they had permission to address me by my first name in public since "mom" would generate more responses than Pam. As they entered adolescence, we had new code words so that if they were uncomfortable in a situation perhaps at an event with friends and wanted to leave, they could call me give me the code word and we would retrieve them no questions asked.
So, perhaps you and your mom could negotiate a code word or hand gesture so that if you are feeling apprehensive in a situation, she can intervene and you can discuss it later.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 03:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make her happy. Mom's get soft especially with their children. Buy her gifts, cards and everything that will put her in a good mood. Take it girl. It's the secret to having freedom. You can also do that to boys if you're interested. Just be creative.
2006-07-30 03:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Flordeluna A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she walks away from you so that you can talk to the boy by yourself without wanting to embarrass you. She is protective of you. She also want you to do what you would normally do if you went to the store by yourself without your mom being there.
That is all. She is not neglecting you at all.
2006-07-30 03:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grab your mom by the arm and say I NEED TO TALK TO YOU NOW! Shout it at her if you have to. Make her help you, it's her responsibility. Maybe your mom doesn't realize you are nervous around boys and she thinks you don't want her there when boys are around.
2006-07-30 03:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by lildebbieswtcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your mom. Tell her how you feel. You need a mom, not a friend. She needs to take control of the situation.
2006-07-30 03:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl with with a mother like that
i am a mother also
it sounds like she just wants to give you space like my mother always did she thinks that maybe if you are seen in public with your mother that that embaresses you :P my mother always thought that if she was standing too close to me in public i would become angry with her and hate her :P
i have to agree with a lot of the other people that answered your question - talk to your mother or else she will never know
good question
2006-07-30 03:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋