im 14, almost 15(9th grade).ever since 6th grade ive felt like i cant talk to them about anything because they will use it against me or something. my mom especially.. she makes jokes and stuff about things if i tell her anyything. or shell ask a bunch of questions over and over that i dont know the answers too...she wants to pick my friends and who i hang out with and i understand that because she loves me but she doesnt like my friends, but she doesnt know them welll enough and wont try to get to know them. the people she wants me to be friends with she doesnt know well enough either. they just arent my type. no offense at all. i just dont fit in with them. my friends all care about me and i know they do. i trust them.
plus, i feel like my mom cares about my brother more than me. hes younger than me(10) and i understand her being more protective because hes younger, but i think he tells her stuff about his friends all the time and tells her everything thats going on in his life.
2006-07-30 03:21:25 · 11 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we just moved to shanghai, for my dads job(my mom doesnt work) and i cant tell if things have gotton better or worse. school hasnt started yet over here and wont till the end of august. i dont know if that will change anything.i havent met anyone to hang out with so im stuck at home while my brothers out with his friends all the time. but im used to it since it was the same way back home cause my parents wouldnt let me go anywhere.
i try to do what i can for them to actually act like im more than just someone in the house but it doesnt seem to work so much.
ive made good grades my whole life. a's and high b's. ive never done drugs or drank alchohol.
2006-07-30 03:29:40 · update #1
ive never yelled at them or acted as if theyve done something wrong. i just put it away and i know i should talk to them but how to do it, i dont know. they dont know i feel like this at all but i dont know what to do
2006-07-30 03:33:39 · update #2
need help, please
2006-07-30 04:25:03 · update #3
It is natural to have some relationship problems with your parents. We all do, but it is important to always talk them out and try to resolve them. Remember that during your teen years parent-child relationships become strained. It is just a natural happening. You are becoming more independent and they might not want to let go. It is frustrating and maddening sometimes. With a little patience and understanding you will get your parents to listen and see your point of view.
Show them this question and answer. It should show them that you really need them to listen.
Realize that they have their own problems and plenty of stress in dealing with them.
2006-07-30 03:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by GeneL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have your parents read what you just wrote. If they don't get it, look for another role model. School counselors work well for this. Maybe a friend's parent after you get some. If you play sports maybe the coach will listen.
You could just try it once and see how it goes.
Another thing, you could test her. Tell her you did something shady that you didn't actually do. Now your in trouble and you need her advice. See how she reacts, then tell her you tested her to see if you could talk to her.
2006-07-30 10:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by goose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time your mom goes out for errands...why dont you go with her. Then tell her how you feel. How sometimes you feel suffocated with her questions and her trying to control you. I use to be like you and i could not even tell her. so i wrote her a letter and left it in the kitchen before i left for school and it worked for me. The thing i learned from all this is, parents wants the best for us. they want to protect us from harm. So give her a chance...If she didnt love you, she wouldnt be asking a lot of questions or teasing you. I think you have a cool mom:)
2006-07-30 10:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you male or female?
unless you are afraid of them (as i was - I'm male), I'd tell them what you wrote here (or write it to them) OVER AND OVER until they either get the message that you hate being controlled and put in 2nd place to your brother or you finally get big enough to go away and make your own life better.
just like with any other relationship, they need to know what you feel and you need to TELL THEM -- NOW.
you've said it pretty well here so just give them a copy of this message and compose some more. you'll feel better even if they reject your statements. tell us and anyone who'll respect your feelings - they matter!
i just hope they are punishers.
2006-07-30 12:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is the same way. You say something, but she just turns it around and puts a guilt trip on you. You just have to talk to her about it whether she likes it or not. I did, and she hates but at least it's off my chest and won't cause me problems later.Hope everything works out for you.
~El-Matto
2006-07-30 10:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by El-Matto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl you're truly 14 obviously you don't know what you're doing. this is an Q and A but what exactly is your question? anyway you know the saying "mothers know best". believe that saying coz it happens to be true.
2006-07-30 10:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by esquivel_mm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i get the exact same thing (im 14) and ive talked to her about it several times, but she just does it again and again and again...
but oh well. i just talk to one of my friends if i have a problem, but only if they are reliable, and everytime thats worked.
2006-07-30 10:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by WhItE sOx RuLe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't, either.. It just gets too uncomfortable. And it makes me just want to be alone forever. And they wont leave me alone. I just don't like talking to my parents about serious stuff.
2006-07-30 10:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got to make her understand u need her to listen to u, that u are important too
2006-07-30 10:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her what you just typed in here??? It sounds that she loves you and you are growing up.(hormones in an up roar)!!
2006-07-30 10:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋