now i feel even more paranoid and insecure about myself and my actions. I've been on quite a few dates with different guys recently from an online site and i have somehow managed to put all 3 of them off me. I really liked the 3rd guy and had 2 dates with him now he isnt interested in seein me again. I really want to ask him what i did to put him off but dont want to sound desperate.
I feel really bad now its been diagnosed and dont even feel like leavin the house anymore as all i try to do is be nice but people never like me...
2006-07-30 03:08:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have a friend with Aspergers. When she was diagnosed, it made her happy, because it explained some things she (and others) had not been able to understand about her personality.
I'm sorry you are having a tough time, but I think that now that you have a name for some of the problems you may have had, you can find out what to do to help avoid them in the future.
The thing is, having 3 guys not like you on an online dating site does not mean much at all. I think everyone has gone through this. Even in 3D we meet people all the time who we really like, but that don't like us. It takes lots of contact with lots of people before most of us find one we click with.
I'm really sorry you're feeling so bad, and I think that finding a support group of others with Aspergers might help a lot. It would be great if you could find one in your city, but if that's not possible, join one online. Just search on "Aspergers support".
I certainly hope that you find the support you need to realize that you are a very special person with a great deal to offer the world, and more important to you at the moment, the lucky guy who eventually finds you. Hang in there, he may be around the very next corner!
2006-07-30 03:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son has Asperger's. He attended workshops to help him with his social skills. Now he is in high school and has a one-on-one assistant to help him learn how to interact with people in different situations and he is doing much better! Hiding won't make it go away. It's just one of the hurdles in life we all have to overcome. There are support groups online. You didn't say how old you are. He had a terrible time in middle school as that age group can be very difficult. He's starting to find people with similar interests now that he is in high school. Hang in there and don't give up! Hope this helps....
2006-07-30 03:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother has Asperger syndrome, so l some what know what your talking about. You should be proud of yourself that you have been leaving the house and communicating with people.don't give up.It just takes time. You will find someone, just have a little patience and faith in yourself, mister right is out there, don't you worry.
2006-07-30 03:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't despair but be brave and take things in your stride as they come. If you stay put inside the house, you won't meet anyone and hence, you won't know whether they like you or not. So, keep calm and act normally, and time will prove everything to be fine and to your advantage. Cheer up!
2006-07-30 03:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋